#actualdetrans

[msudetransitionstudy]

Hello! I am the primary researcher for the Michigan State University detransition study, a study on the factors that encourage and discourage people in regards to transitioning, detransitioning, and retransitioning. We are open to anyone of any gender identity who has experience with detransitioning over the age of 18 in the US or Canada.

If you are interested or know someone who may be, please check out the QR code and link in the image.

Please see our FAQ for more information.

[detransisbeautiful]

if you're a detrans woman who has had a masectomy, your body is not mutilated or ruined, and you are still just as much of a woman regardless. don't let the gcs make you believe your body is lesser or "mutilated" bc you've had a mastectomy.

[roleshirked]

TIL detrans kink existed 🙃

imagine being a woman questioning whether she should detransition/desist, going through what is objectively a very rough critical self-analysis-- imagine being a young woman who needs support, and you try to do lukewarm searches to see if anyone else out there feels the same way you do, and you're met with this:

i feel for them. this is so many layers of fucked up.

trawling through the tag pointed me to #actualdetrans as an alternative, and i wanted to boost that, in case it helps even one other person start that lukewarm search.

and since i'm posting this in public tags: my inbox is open for anyone, for any reason. and i'm more than happy to meet someone half way who might just want an alternative POV. please stay safe!

[detransisbeautiful]

ok I've recently learned of the #actualdetrans tag and I just want to make this post and say

cis people and "detrans kink" people do NOT post in this tag. if you're not someone who considers themself an actual detransitioner do not post in the #actualdetrans or #actuallydetrans tags.

I'm saying this as a detransitioner, we have so few places online and even less in person to communicate and share detransition stories and resources. please don't use the tag to post detrans kink stuff or terf stuff about how ruined detrans ppls bodies are and how we're such a tragedy. just let us post in it please, I promise your outsider opinions do not help.

[detransisbeautiful]

the detrans tag on here is completely full of detrans kink and transphobia, it's so disheartening to see. I wish all the detrans kink ppl would pick some other tag and not be in the detrans tag posting untagged noncon stuff but ah well you can't control other ppl I suppose

anyway I'm hoping to sort of fill that tag up with more positivity for detransitioners who may turn to Tumblr, I'm hoping more ppl will find my blog as well and I can post more positivity :)

[detransisbeautiful]

I feel like theres no place for me to discuss how sexism homophobia and trauma led to my transition without being jumped on by transphobes or trans people alike. do you have any idea how to process any idk 'sensitive' detrans topics that people hate hearing about?

felt that- I know r/actual_detrans generally allows discussion of anything as long as you aren't specifically blaming trans people for your transition or implying everyone who transitions does it for the wrong reasons ig.

I'm working on making my own discord server rn and it'll def be open to that kind of discussion, I also feel like aspects like bullying and dysmorphia led to my transition and eventual detransition, as well as the transmedicalist community's insistence on transition to validate your identity as a "real trans person"

but yeah when I make my discord you're free to discuss it with me and other detransitioners in there :)

[transfixedfool]

having a lot of feelings about my beard today.

when my beard grew in i was so happy and thought it looked fantastic…i didn’t clean shave my face for three years. it became very easy to pass - most people assumed that I am cis and that was perfectly fine with me for the longest time…one day i looked in the mirror and looked so much like my father it made me sick.

now that i’ve allowed myself to consider detransition, that i realize that i actually am a woman, i’ve been shaving. the difference was pretty immediate - people started addressing me as ma’am and reading me as a woman even with my more masculine jawline and strange voice. it felt invigorating.

but my skin can’t keep up with shaving - even following the best practices i can, i’m still getting razor burn on my neck and chin. feeling my stubble grow out is infuriating.

i have pretty intense ADHD and would touch my beard constantly to stim, and now touching the rough stubble is triggering my dysphoria so badly.

i feel just about ready to give up and let my beard grow out and try to live with it again but the joy i get from being read as a woman was so real…