#actually genderqueer

[weepingwillows-sweethibiscustea]

Hii, wanted to get an outside perspective on how people view this name. Please vote if you would like :))

How does the name Sage sound?

Feminine

Masculine

Unisex

Enby name

I’m bald (elaborate in tags?)

Voting ended onApr 4, 2025

[themadcapmathematician]

Ive said it before but its just continually painfully obvious to me that ppl have no idea where to fit nonbinary people into the Trans Conversation, even as they say we're already included. And i get it, its much easier to go "here are trans men's issues and here's trans women's issues and here's how they are different and compliment and contrast each other" and not have to jigsaw puzzle where nonbinary people fit into that, and feel like theres just no need to expand the conversation here bc thats now how we as a society talk abt gender. Theres men and women and thats it.

But the thing is that you cant say we are Included and then do that bc then the inclusion is quite literally false. To so many minds, even subconsciously, we arent Transgender, we are a byproduct of the actual transgender experience. We disrupt the very shape that the conversation takes place within and thats why we need to talk about and think about Nonbinary rights, genderqueer rights, our rights specifcally, bc otherwise we will be forgotten, or at least the conversation will just always continue to simply not be relevant to us

[117-opossum-teeth]

i use they/them pronouns. however, they don’t feel like my pronouns. honestly, i just use them because there’s no better option for me. they/them, at least in my mind, implies being completely neutral and genderless… which simply isn’t me. i’m filled with gender! my gender is full of complexities and layers, that they/them just… can’t capture.

i know neopronouns exist, although they’re honestly not exactly what i’m looking for. for starters, my indecisiveness would never be able to pick out of the hundreds of neos, and they aren’t well known enough for me to bother using them anyways (100% support to those who do, though!). so, i stick with they/them. it’s not a *great* fit, but they’re the least sucky out of my options.

[mentallystill]

welcome to queer theory, where you’ll learn that gender’s not real and the pronouns don’t matter

[queerplatonicpositivity]

The conversation at my LGBTQIA+ support group actually started with a discussion of the term “passing privilege” (a term I hate).  I was talking about how I am getting read as queer for the first time in my life, due to my recent haircut.  I’m pretty sure people are reading me as a cis lesbian, but as someone who keeps getting mistaken for an ally, it feels kind of like an improvement?? I guess??

But I was trying to acknowledge that I have power in that I can choose if I want to be read as queer or as cis het, based on my haircut and the clothes I wear.  Not everyone has the power to choose if they want to be visibly queer.  And I feel like it’s important for me to recognize that I do have this choice, and that this choice impacts my safety.   I like being visibly queer right now, because I’m in a situation where it’s currently relatively safe for me to be read as queer.

However, it’s not the same thing as “passing” (another term I hate).  I will never be correctly read as non-binary.  It’s not a privilege to be wrongly identified.  I do have power to somewhat choose how I am wrongly identified, but it’s still wrong.  That choice can provide me some additional safety, but it’s still wrong.  I will never be able to “stealth” as non-binary.  The majority of people I encounter don’t even know what that word means.  And especially as someone who doesn’t aspire to androgyny, I can’t (and don’t want to) have people read me as some sort of middle ground between male and female.

[queer-cosette]

My gender is the guitar solo at the end of I Never by Rilo Kiley.

[jezunya]

Cis women telling me ‘woman’ can mean so many different things!!! and they can expand it to cover any way they express their identity, and therefore how could I possibly be nonbinary, when I could be any type of woman I want!!!!!

...Is like a fish lecturing a duck about how ‘fish’ is such a broad category, and there’s no one way to be a fish, and anything they do as a fish is necessarily fish-identity, while completely ignoring the duck saying ‘that’s nice but I’m still a fucking duck, not a fish.’

[themadcapmathematician]

"masc" "fem" "afab" "amab" "gender presentation" idk what the fuck you're talking abt, my gender is being forced to file government forms