#nbphobia

[naga-noia]

as a person under the agender/nonbinary umbrella I actually think the recently increased focus on a nonbinary person’s agab is insanely fucking uncomfortable and blatantly exorsexist. Stop trying to sort NB people into boxes of amab vs afab, transfem vs transmasc, tma vs tme, etc etc. It is not praxis or activism to keep attempting to binarize people whose entire identities are built around the fact that they DO NOT ADHERE to a binary. You are just being a fucking tar pit #sorry

[sweetpea67]

The whole point of destroying the gender binary is actually destroying the gender binary. Not replacing “female” with “afab” and “male” with “amab” and pretending like that isn’t the exact same thing.

Why, exactly, do you need to know if a nonbinary person is “afab” or “amab”? Do you not realize that’s what you are asking when you demand to know if they are “tme” or “tma”? That you’re invalidating their identity by essentially asking “are you a girl enby or a boy enby?”

Why are you using “afab” to describe menstruation, larger breasts, vaginas, and uteruses and “amab” to describe penises, testes, and Adam’s apples? The actual meaning of those terms is just “what letter did the doctors mark on this piece of paper”. Do you not know that trans people on HRT will have traits that don’t match their agab? That some intersex people assigned to one gender or another *never* had these traits? That none of these traits are universal even among cis men and cis women?

Have you thought these opinions through?

[mercutiodidntdieforthis]

"Okay, I support your transition, but did you have to choose such a BASIC whiteboy name-" That's transphobic btw. You're not funny, you're making your trans friend feel unwelcome.

"I support your gender, but I don't support you calling yourself GERTRUDE-" Transphobic. And just assholish. You're a bad friend/family member/coworker/whatever to this person if you say that.

"It's fine if you're nonbinary, but that does NOT mean you have to make your name fucking SOCKS-" Surprise surprise, it's transphobic even when you think they're weird! I shouldn't have had to tell you that.

No, it doesn't mean that you don't support transgender people as a whole. You likely aren't a transphobic person. But yes, it's a transphobic action.

Someone is expressing a part of themselves to you and being vulnerable. For many trans people, their name is closely tied to their identity and gender. So, yeah, being weird about a trans person's name isn't cutesy and funny, you're a fucking dick. Like that's also mean to do to a cis person with a weird name wtf? Don't be mean? It's literally so easy

[status-quo-hater]

Androqueerphobia

The term is organized as; Andro + queerphobia - to emphasize that this is a subset of queerphobia, not a subset of "misandry" which is a word that has been thoroughly poisoned by reactionary groups such as MRAs, incels, MGTOW, anti-SJWs, and others.

Definition: Bigotry against queer masculinity & queer manhood. Such as what is faced by butches, nonbinary people, transmasculine people & trans men, intersex men, and men/mascs who are gender nonconforming or otherwise genderqueer.

These are all forms of gender identity, expression, presentation & existence that are distinct from cisnormative patriarchal manhood, and posess proximity to femininity in some way, whether it be societally-imposed or from within. Because of this, queer masculinity & queer manhood is marginalized under patriarchy.

This term is meant to enmesh with similar terms used in queer discussion and is not meant to replace anything. It does not have an ideological backing aside from the belief that queer masculinity and manhood is gender-marginalized and those affected deserve a term to talk about that.

[gettinontopic]

Why cant we ever bring up the endless bullying of nonbinary folks without this fucking shit

"Other members of the community are bullying us for our gender and presentation"

"Have you considered it's deserved because they could be transphobic to trans woman?"

This is enraging honestly. I could type paragraphs to how folks treat us for asking to not be bullied but honestly I think anyone who cares doesn't need it.

Stop telling trans people they deserve mistreatment

[inclosed-outsider]

seeing deltarune fanart from a russian artist and going to their telegram is like a russian roulette to see if they're transphobic or not. i saw a very popular krusie fanartist flat out say they see kris as an "androgynous boy". screenshot + translation of a case like that (the artist in question here is eidinazavr):

(i'm pretty sure you've seen their art)

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

Another thing I find funny about exorsexist and transmed trans binary people (and other enbies) is how they think enbies that don’t transition and are read as cis automatically have it easy. All enbies, whether they’re on hrt or not, have surgeries or not will probably never be seen as our true gender because we’ll always be chucked into a box. Hrt doesn’t include our transition needs. And that’s agonizing. It’s easy to understand that dysphoria of being misread for trans binary people in our community, but suddenly it’s not a big deal when it comes to enbies.

If they are confronted with the reality of a non binary person with gender dysphoria, it undermines their whole argument, so they ignore us in favor of a stawman rich non binary person who just flounces around and causes trouble for the binary folk.

All enbies, whether they’re on hrt or not, have surgeries or not will probably never be seen as our true gender because we’ll always be chucked into a box. Hrt doesn’t include our transition needs. And that’s agonizing. These people don't care about that either, because in their mind, the ideal goal is to conform and assimilate into cis society, so the fact that we suffer doesn't matter. It's our fault for not even being able to assimilate in the first place.

[sanchoworm]

Look, there's a crack running right through our own communities. On one side, there's the strict TME/TMA binary. On the other, the transmed obsession with one narrow, medicalized path. And of course, the TERFs (and yes, the TIRFs). All of them are playing the same game: us-versus-them. And somehow, their "them" always ends up being us: non-binary people, folks with messy or contradictory labels, transmascs and trans men who complicate a clean, simple narrative.

What's the point? I'm serious. What is the actual point of fighting the gender binary if we just turn around and build new, smaller boxes inside the wreckage? We were supposed to be getting out of the two brutally enforced cages. But this? This just polices who's in and who's out: who counts enough, who's hurt enough, who's real enough. It's just mimicking the exclusion we're supposed to be destroying.

We have to aim at the right target. The real enemy is not the trans person whose life you don't understand. The real enemy is the transphobes, the fascists, the entire system geared for our erasure. Every bit of energy we waste on civil war—on debating the perfect victim or the one true trans experience—is energy we don't have to fight them.

This infighting isn't progressive. It's a sickness. It's the binary's final, brutal trick: convincing us to build its walls for it, with our own hands. We are literally doing the work for the forces that want us gone. And I am so tired of it.

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