I was turning Caterina around in my mindcrowave and thought: is she also ace?? So between the adhd (I've talked before on here about my head cannon that Illario has it has it) and being just so, so allo, she had so little to connect to Illario on in a human way. Like, Lucanis is good and always does what she says and eats wheaties and never gets distracted by things like love or even attraction. Perfect soldier Crow Grandson. He can love Rook now cause he's earned it??
I don't know if this makes sense, but I've just been so confused on why someone would willingly have 6 children and never even make her only heirs get married and start popping out babies asap if she just... didn't care for the idea? She was like, 'I was married and had a bunch of children and it sucked and they didn't even live, so why put the boys through that. People who have time for romantic love aren't the First Talon of the Crows, I'm just better than those people. I don't want to spend my life playing happy family when I can just protect what I already made.' With like a hint of sex repulsion maybe?
Back to the point, because it is Illario Week and not Caterina week, if he's the only allosexual in the house plus the adhd, I'm sure that Caterina could not fathom why his impulsivity was through the roof. Sleeping with anyone he wanted, cause he could, and she never saw that as a good thing despite it being his biggest asset as a Crow? Because it wasn't the right way (way she taught him). And he's just not sure why everyone around him is able to be so disciplined to the point of never having fun? He's obviously disciplined if he's a master assassin and no one batted an eye when he became First Talon outside of the people who knew he was conniving.
I just feel a little sorry for Caterina, but not enough to forgive all the ~abuse~. Feel much more sorry for Illario and Lucanis who grew up in a house with a woman who (probably) saw love as an obligation she had to force herself to do, rather than a feeling she felt.
Anyway, I didn't finish my fic so this is my contribution instead... thank you to @illarioappreciation and @lustaniasaxon for hosting this week!!!