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Any tips on how to handle anxiety that just keeps getting worse?

Hey there, it’s Sam Winchester. Do you have a name, nickname or initial to go by ??Okay, so it’s no surprise that anxiety is one son of a bitch, and you shouldn’t have to deal with it. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed or ashamed for dealing with it either – mental illness is the same as physical illness. Figuratively. It’s not your fault. If you had the flu, you’d see your doctor, right ?? If that’s an option for you, you should definitely see your doctor. I know telling a parent can seem pretty daunting, but if that’s the kind of situation you’re in, maybe don’t be specific on why you want to see your doctor ?? Say it’s for a checkup?? Some parents just don’t get mental illness because it was a taboo subject while they were growing up. If there’s no possible way for you to see a professional, on the resources page here there are a lot of helpful ways to deal with anxiety or just to distract you. Maybe try a few out and see how they make you feel ?? You’ll kick this in the ass. Let me know how it goes for you, okay??Always keep fighting. Love, Sam.

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hi, it's marius again. i spoke to ellen last time, but if you don't mind, could i please just talk to sam? just this once? thank you! my hallucinations have been getting worse, and it's HORRIBLE. mostly it's monsters, but spiders are also very frequent. my friends are always like "oh just touch it to see if it's real" bitch are you for real i'm not picking up a brown recluse. but it's absolutely terrifying, because i feel so vulnerable. everything is scary and freaky now. can i have some love?

Hey Marius, it’s Sam.

I get hallucinations sometimes but it’s just when I don’t sleep much or I’m exhausted. Yours does sound like it’s taking its toll on you. I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but you should talk to your doctor. There can be a lot of causes for hallucinations and your doctor would be able to rule out a lot of them.

Let me know how it goes?

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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Hey Sam, it's Emma again. So I went back to my doctor and told them how I was feeling and they lowered my dosage a bit and I've been feeling so much better! I'm still not 100%, but I'm much better than I was! I'm not expecting to ever be 100% better but it's much easier to handle now. Thank you so much for listening to me and helping me! You'll probably hear from me again but maybe not anytime soon. Thanks again! -Emma

Hey Emma.

It’s so good to hear from you. And I’m glad that it was a problem that you solved that easily, dude. I’m so proud of you for everything! You know you can come back any time you want, I’ll be right here.

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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hey, I'm new here so you can call me kay, I've always identified as a cisgender female, I've never really given it much thought but these past few days I've been doubting myself. I haven't really felt a male, but more like I'm genderless, is it normal to switch between genders? to go from female to agender/genderless/whatever? could this be genderfluidity?

Hey Kay, this is Sam Winchester.

Gender’s a tricky subject. It’s something totally personal and discovered through exploration. It’s not like you “switch” genders, more just you discover what label fits you. At the end of the day, you’re either cis or you aren’t - but you’re still the same person.

I guess the place to start is by familiarising yourself with different gender identities. I’ll help you out with a few?

So yeah, agender is someone who’s genderless, completely non-binary, doesn’t fit under any label.

Genderfluid is when you fluctuate between genders. Typically, genderfluid people have days where they’re male, female, neither, or both.

Because you’ve mentioned genderfluidity in the same context as female and agender, I’m going to assume that you feel like both of these. You could be a demigirl? Means that you only identify partially as a girl. You can choose to also identify as agender if that’s what you also identify with. Does demigirl sound like it fits you?

(Admin note: I’m agender and I identified as cis for the first 18 years of my life, it’s definitely a bit tricky but really worth it when you find your label, you’ll feel comfortable. If you want, you can message my personal blog at @first-boner-of-cas)

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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Can I please talk to Sam? :) Hi my names Feli and well i have this best friend and she can get kinda mean sometimes and she always says sorry but i feel like it's just a word to her. Sure best friends fight and stuff but if its too much it gets exhausting. Basically we were hanging out and i giggled and something she said and she said "you think you're so cute when you do that but you're really not" i got mad and told her what she said hurt me, we havent spoken since. If you answer thank you x

Hey Feli.

It’s good that you’ve acknowledged that she isn’t treating you fairly, because you’re right and she isn’t. Would you be able to talk to her about it? Like go out for coffee or something and just say basically what you just told me. It should be fine, I don’t think she’s trying to hurt you or anything.

For the record, your giggling? It is cute.

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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hi sam, it's lost girl. (hopefully you haven't forgotten me aha) so it's summer break and I'm hanging out with new friends and it's going great but most of them aren't from my school so I'll be alone during my grad year. idk what I'm gonna do next year

Hey Lost Girl, of course I remember you!

I’m glad you’re hanging out with your new friends, how are you getting along with them? And overall how are you doing? I’m sure you have some friends in school that you can spend time with, or you can make a new friend or two. You’ve totally got this!

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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Hi this is Darkx, can I talk to Sam please? I'm dating this guy who is always broke and never seems to want to make plans with me. I like him but I don't know if I can keep dating him when he's never around. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel like he's just using me for sex. Thanks for your help.

Hey Darkx.

One thing that I’ve learned, is that the most vital thing for any kind of relationship - whether it’s with a romantic partner, a sibling, or just a friend - is communication. Have you talked to the guy about how you’re feeling? Honestly, you deserve better than to be with someone who makes you doubt their intentions. But I’m not the one who’s in this relationship, it’s not my place to say. Think of the positive outcomes if you talk to him about it. Communication is key.

Let me know how things progress?

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.

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Hey Sam, it's Cloudy again. My friend is doing better, a lot better. She's telling me how shoes going to start taking control of her life and how she's going to make every day count. I talk to her everyday to check up on her. Thank you so so much. I'm going to keep you updated on anything else that happens, just in case, but thank you. For everything.

Cloudy!

I’m incredibly relieved to hear that your friend is okay. Make sure that you can contact a friend/relative of hers in case something happens in the future. Chances are it won’t, but not knowing can be worse. I’m really proud of her for taking control of her life. And of you too, you’re strong and don’t forget it.

Always keep fighting.

Love, Sam.