Making mistakes and apologizing
Admitting a mistake and apologizing doesnt't nessecarily come natural to all of us. We might have to get taugt how to do it right and how to actually learn from them and move forward.
If anybody else was never taught how to apologize or admit mistakes and accidentally reacts negatively and strongly for being called out: this is what I worked out to do better with my caretaker, since we're never too old to unlearn negative behaviours:
Not taking it too personal. I always assume the other person is mad at me and wants to get a reaction out of me, but sometimes they just want to calmly try to correct me
Not feeling too guilty. I always think Im a bad person for making mistakes and get very defensive- it even used to show in agression bc I felt like I needed to be right or else Im worthless
Taking a step back, fact checking if I'm right
Knowing my negative reactions are taught and that I'm not a bad kid for having them as long as I want to do better and dont hurt anybody I'm all good. I never saw somebody apologize growing up, so I never really had the chance to learn it myself
Learning I'm not always right. Sounds stupid, I know, but even tho I dislike myself I really struggle with not assuming my intelligence is superior to others. My IQ used to be my only personality trait and the adults in my life encouraged that
Good sentences for admitting a mistake could be "I think I saw it wrong so far....", "thanks for your input", "I apologize, I always assumed...", "I'll do better", "youre right" and so on.
Good sentences for apologys could be "I didnt know this would affect you sm, I'll consider it from now on", "my behaviour was wrong, could we talk again?" etc.
