When we talked about our plans to adopt, people often asked a lot of questions. The most common were along the lines of “are you sure you can love someone else's child as much as you love your daughter?” I always found that quite strange. I’m not biologically-related to my husband, but nobody ever suggested that I should marry a relative, or questioned whether I could love him as much as my biological family! Why do so many people think we need a biological link to a child to love them? We have some very close friends who have children of a similar age to our eldest, and some had younger siblings. I adore those children, and have looked after some of them when friends had work etc. The more time I spend with them, the more I feel that our bond grows stronger. It’s the same with any relationship really, but sometimes people assume that the love we have for a child is more difficult to form. I actually think children are often the easiest to bond with! I love my friends’ children who have no biological link to me or my husband, so I have never had any doubt that I would love any child we adopted. It’s not genetics that makes me love my family! Love is complicated and difficult to explain or understand, but one thing I am certain of is that love does not depend on DNA. American Opera Singer, Robert Brault, put it well when he said: “There is an instinct in a woman to love most her own child – and an instinct to make any child who needs her love, her own.” . #adoption #attachment #attachmentbuilding #adoptionbuiltus #adoptionislove #love #lovemakesafamily #wearefamily #wecouldhavemissedthis #family #famille #familia #familie #wirsindfamilie #liebemachtfamilie https://www.instagram.com/p/CnG-ll1tz-U/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
