hi! i think i'm an fictionkin of x character, because, there are things that are too familiar, some familiar flavors, familiar textures, things that are not really related or have not been related to my current life, i see things from the canon and i don't feel like it happened like that, and i feel kinda sad for thinking in a friend from that source
but, i keep doubting, i want to know if this could count as fictionkin?...
Those definitely sound like experiences that could be part of being fictionkin to me.
Experiences that happen to the character that seem familiar to you that aren't part of your current life, and nostalgia and sorrow for it is definitely a common fictionkin experience.
Sorry, i don't want to make you uncomfortable or assume anything about you, so if you don't wear one, that's fine! I'm kinda scared of speaking in support groups and stuff so i wanted to ask you, do you know how i can make a binder or use something as a binder but doesn't look like one? I need something that looks like a regular bra, i can't leave my house because i'm too young but i can't cope with the dysphoria anymore. I know if i come out as a trans man they're gonna kick me out
Hey! That situation sounds awful, my dms are always open if you wanna talk or want some more advice but i might know a few things that might help
When i was still closeted, I used sports bras to bind my chest, some of them come without cups and you can remove the cups in some of them, although be careful with them and don’t wear more than one at a time because it can affect your breathing.
There’s also a way to bind with a camisole that has a built in bra which i will link here (this helped me so much when i was closeted)
Also don’t fret too much about your chest size, I have quite a naturally large chest but I’ve still been read as a boy without my binder on. I hid my chest by wearing a hoodie that had a pocket around the belly button and putting my hands in the pocket and pushing my hands out a little bit away from my body.
Another way is to get into cosplay and then get a binder and say its for that, or you could ask someone you trust to hold it for you, and then quickly change into it when at their house, or when you get to school/work.
I was lucky enough to be given parents who were (for the most part) accepting and didn’t kick me out, but one of my friends has parents who would not accept her if she told them and apart from the advice i gave today, all i can say is take it day by day and the years will fly by until you can move out. Learn skills like cooking and budgeting, find a place where you can live in an emergency (a friend’s house or something else), save money where you can and talk to people (again my dms are always open). I wish I could help more, it kills me that some people don’t accept their child.
any advice on how to deal with situations when people think bad of you but only because they dont know the full story behind your actions. cause it happens sometimes when you do something odd or abnormal with a really good reason, but others dont understand and judge you harshly for it. its so irritating.
first, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that buddy :( that’s so hard.
I’m gonna pop a little read more thing here for if people don’t wanna read, but I’m gonna share with you the advice my counsellor gave me when I was dealing with the same thing :)
The big thing that my counsellor and I are working on (still to this day!) is being okay with people thinking poorly of you. It’s majorly hard, that’s why we’re still working on it, but I find myself getting better and better every day.
Essentially, the key is to be sure and confident within yourself, your actions, and your choices that the words and actions of other people don’t bother you. All of your decisions are for you, so who cares what they think? You understand you and you’re providing a nice life for yourself. Who cares if people don’t like that?
Of course, that mentality is mega hard to reach. It takes a lot of self discipline in not engaging with them, standing by yourself, but still being patient and understanding with those around you. Everyone, whether they’re being mean or not, are dealing with things. That’s probably why they’re being mean if they are. Approaching these situations with that view really helps you keep a kind, level-head.
These are some reminders and realizations my counsellor and I worked on that have really helped for me to know:
The people you deserve to have in your life won’t harshly judge your actions. They love and support you for you. Nothing odd or abnormal would turn them away because that’s part of the reasons why they love you.
Communication is key for everything, but isn’t your fault if you’re open to communication and they aren’t. It just means you two aren’t on the same page. And that can be okay too.
They might be choosing to be angry and don’t want to hear your side. This could be because if they hear you’re side, they know they’ll understand. Sometimes, for personal reasons, people just need to stay angry for a while. That isn’t a fault on you. That’s their decision, and that’s okay. It’s not your fault that you can’t do any more right then.
If they choose to leave, let them walk away. It’s hard, but the people you deserve in your life wouldn’t turn their backs on you. They love you and want the best for you. They would never shun you out without communication if they deserved to be in your social circle.
I stopped talking to my cluster of old best friends a few years ago. They had been doing all of the same things you outlined and refused to talk to me about it. They refused to hear my side of the story and, therefore, assumed, lied, and gossiped to almost everyone in my life about me. My counsellor told me this, which changed so much of my perspective:
“If you’ve reached out because you want to patch things up and communicate, and they continue to assume, lie, and gossip about your side while refusing to hear it, why bother? They’ve made up their minds about what they want to do. They don’t want communication. They want to be angry. And that isn’t on you.”
I hope this is able to help you a little bit buddy. love you and am here for you :(
hello friend, im in need of ur help. this is love advice tho so if u dont do that pls js let me know that u dont in response to this.
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here goes, SO i go to a sports club. its mixed boys and girls in it. i wont specify which sport i play, reason being that some of the players MIGHT be on tumblr.
but pls know that i am a 15 years-old girl, confused and in need of advice. anyways, i met a guy. we are simply 'friends' but lately ive been catching feelings for him. i mean its easy to do so - wouldnt be surprised if there were ten other girls inlove with him.
describing him: in my point of view
TOUCHY (as my friend has said once when she got paired up w him for something)
POSITIVE (youll never see him not smiling)
COMFORTING (if u make mistakes on a game - he'll do everything to comfort u)
DREAMY (he's out of a book.)
I like him a WHOLE LOT. and my friends all say that he likes me too for obvious reasons but do u think he does like me? and what should i do next?
heres how it started:
In a match where I was js SOO close to panicking during a time out, he held my hands and shaked them to loosen me up then ruffled my hair. it WAS seen on camera that was behind us. ive caught him looking at me a few times. when i talk to him and im sitting and hes standing, he leans down to me and im basically looking at him upwards while hes leaning down. he NEVER ever misses the chance to say hi, hello or talk to me. he texted me and reassured me of how well i played one time when i got home, one thing that struck by me was him going "its ok bubs" (i COULD NOT sleep that night)
most recent one that kept me up all night 2 nights in a row:
he asked me for a hug?! i said no as a joke but he still hugged me anyway.. while teasing me .
reading this ik that it sounds like im sure he likes me but i really am not. my friend said that when they were posing tgt for a pageant he pulled her closer so im not sure if hes js touchy w everyone or if he likes me or if im going delusional.
thoughts? what should i do next?
thank you SOOOOOOO much
I hope this doesn't come off as rude, but I couldn't help but chuckle a bit at your story. It's honestly so wholesome to read through. I don't mind answering love advice questions, I'm here to answer any question to the best of my abilities.
There's key points in your story that leads me to believe that he might be a little bit more interested in you than you think. Sure, he may just be an affectionate person and just generally nice to everyone, but have you seen him do the same things to you to anyone else?
If not, chances are your suspensions are correct in that he likes you.
I've watched people try and explain the "mind of a teenage boy/boys in general" and there's always been the consistency of; keeping their emotions covered from others, giving undivided attention (teasing) to those worthy of so, finding someone to confine themselves with so that they to be more honest, things like that.
In terms of what to do next? Decide whether or not that potential relationship is something you want to pursue. Sometimes relationships are just better left as friends, Sometimes they're waiting for you to make the move. Hopefully this could help you and your situation!
i feel ugly. i feel disgusting and filthy and unwantable. i shouldnt be jealous of my bestfriend - shes my bestfriend for a reason. but all the guys seem to want her and watch me stand beside her without paying any mind to me.
woah hey now, no need to talk down on yourself like this. what you feel is incredibly valid, maybe there's qualities about yourself that you deem less than ideal, but I'm sure that you have something special about you!! everyone does, all beings do.
Physical appearance isn't the end all be all for attraction, it's simply a section of it. I think it's normal that you'd feel this way, especially if your best friend is very conventionally attractive in the eyes of society. But this doesn't mean you aren't beautiful or attractive. She's your best friend for a reason; she saw something in you worth sticking around for, she found you and became your best friend for a reason.
I may not know you, but speaking so lowly of yourself just isn't fair to you and your self-worth. Seriously, go out and reflect on who you are. Understand yourself and your outward appearance (mannerisms, physical appearance, tone, personality, etc) and try and find one thing you deem attractive or worthy of attention.
and if all else fails, like the saying goes; fake it to you make it!
