#agender stuff

[bloomingbora]

máš strašně cool jméno! also jak funguješ jako enby v češtině, co se týče rodování?

mockrát děkuju! fáze absolutní fascinace řeckou mytologií se mě na základce držela několik let a skončilo to výběrem tohohle jména hehe

rodování je pro mě osobně strašně těžká věc, jakože zápolím s tím při psaní často, protože i po vyzkoušení obvyklých variant jak psát (a mlvuit, což je rozhodně těžší) neutrálně, mi nic na sto procent nevyhovuje... takže to skončilo u kombinování množnýho čísla (byli jsme venku) a metody s hvězdičkou (byl*a jsem venku). popřípadě snaha vyhýbat se jakémukoliv rodování... ale zároveň mi rody zas až tak moc nevadí, takže v momentěch, kdy se na to cítím, někdy házím ženský rod, někdy mužský (bohužel střední mi nesedí, což je škoda, protože je to moc pěkná možnost, jak se v češtině vyjadřovat jako nebinární člověk)

pro případy, kdy o mě mluví ostatní, preferuju klasicky množné číslo s oni ("niké/oni psali", prostě převedený they/them, který v angličtině používám bez výjimek), v češtině spíše připouštím ženský rod, ale zároveň v poslední době přemýšlím i o častějším používání mužského rodu (ale to nejdřív musím otestovat, jak mi to bude vyhovovat), jak zmíněno nahoře, střední pro mě není, a třeba xkové zakončení mi taky nevyhovuje

je to ve výsledku prostě jedna velká kaše a celkem ještě experimentuju s tím, jak se vlastně vyjadřovat

[almightybagel]

Gender is so strange, like no I’m not a girl/woman, no I'm not a boy/man, I actually don’t have a gender at all, however, I do feel a connection to both masculinity and femininity (though I feel slightly more connected to masculinity than to femininity)

[dodipersponsch]

a proud woman enjoyer (part-time, unofficial), man enjoyer (hobby), enby enjoyer (vocation)

[prtty-0dd]

oh, before i disappear into the depressing void again,

so one time my mom went on my cpu but i still had my (chest) binder tab so i was forced to explain what a binder is (haven't come out to my mom w being agender yet)

but just yesterday i was on amazon, i looked into my mom's shopping cart, and on the "saved for later" was a binder!!! and my birthday's soon, so i think it may be a present!

[georgekirrin]

none gender left pronouns

[ab-arts]

I wanna say it now that I’m thinking about it but please don’t exclude agender from pride sets! I hardly ever see it in any pride sets and a lot of people seem to forget it or just not know it’s a thing

[asterdeer]

happy pride month, i finally gave up on the harry styles cardigan pattern and went with a new one for my agender flag jacket

[variousqueerthings]

a lot of my... lack of everything (lack of gender, lack of sexuality, lack of romantic feelings) has me constantly asking questions around like... 

what is innate and what is societally enforced ritual - for awhile I was way over in the camp of “everything is just forced upon us” and a large part of that was anger at how I was being treated and a desperate need to feel okay with myself

all those things that were/are considered about me - that I was/am sick or infantile or traumatized or otherwise incapable - I wanted to turn them around at others: why do you want to fall in love? Why do you want to engage in these rituals? Why is nuclear family your ideal end-goal? Do you even know? 

I’m going to assume that you’re blinded, that you’re forcing yourself into a societally accepted shape, that you’ve internalized infantile “romantic” propaganda that demands monogamy and sex and marriage and and and, because nothing you’ve told me has convinced me you have an ounce of self-awareness 

All the things I’ve had to figure out on my own, despite you, I’m asking you to do that same introspection and I’m not going to be kind to you, because you weren’t kind to me - I’m going to mock not just the institutions, but the people who live in them (which, yes, at the time I wasn’t so introspective about the roles I inhabit in these self-same institutions - we’re all learning all the time)

and I’m... still angry... and since then I have words like heteronormativity and amatonormativity and cisnormativity, but I also just... know more people. Whose selfhood came hard to them too. And I know generally more stories about people whose selfhood was and is hard-fought-for

I do still have that question “what is innate and what is societally enforced ritual?” But I’m - hopefully - not unkind about it like I used to be

This is vague in a way, but it’s something to do with coming at yourself from the perspective of a cornered animal (angry, defensive, lashing out, not trusting, not able to grow, individualistic) versus trying to realise yourself as a part of a much bigger picture (hands extended outwards, listening, keeping your heart open to hurt, but also to good things)

it’s one of the many reasons why it’s so vital that queerness isn’t neatly organised boxes of identities that you can find your exact self within - we cannot cut off pieces of community, because our own trauma pushed us into a corner. We cannot isolate ourselves, we cannot be individuals who are in pain, lashing out. We have to come at it listening to each other, we have to be complicated and have questions (asked in kindness), we have to consider ourselves pieces of a larger picture