yes we do need more casual agere rep. yes we do need more representation for age regressors who present differently from the “norm” (‘norm’ in quotation marks because there is no right or wrong way to regress), but also I feel like a couple (keyword: a couple, not all of them, a lot of them are very respectful) of posts I’ve seen about this are phrased in a rather mean way towards the types of agere that you see more commonly in the community.
so I’m here to say: regressing in any way is beautiful. girly regressors who use pacis, babytalk and have parental caretakers are just as valid as casual regressors. all types of regressors are valid, no matter what.
this also goes for agere fics. if you don’t want to see a fic of a character babbling, using pacifiers, having plushies, crying out for their mama/papa, etc. then just don’t read them! I absolutely agree that there needs to be more fanfics out there about other types of regression experiences, but that doesn’t suddenly mean that those fics are invalid.
everyone’s experience with age regression is different, and being passive aggressive to those who act like babies in the acting like a baby community is just plain weird. you can absolutely be an age regressor and not do these things, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to those who do.
Everytime I come back to agere tumblr I remember all the many issues I have with the community, so excuse me while I rant.
I am sick of purity culture, but also sick of people complaining about ‘stereotypes’.
Everyone’s regression is different and unique, until suddenly it’s a bad thing if you like pink and are feminine. If you actually like watching cartoons made for the age you regress to and play with toys around that same age bracket, if you do talk like an actual child, or your voice goes soft when your small, if you pet regress but it’s to some ‘common animal’ like a puppy or a kitten, if you do enjoy using pacifiers and baby bottles, or you never enter a middle/teen headspace, then suddenly your regression is labeled a part of a harmful stereotype within the community.
I keep seeing so many posts recently that say if someone doesn’t feel comfortable posting about padded agere means it means they are a ‘bad person’ and are a ‘red flag’ and shouldn’t be involved in the community. That not being able to handle dark posts or mental breakdowns when small means your making agere romanticized and that makes you terrible. And don’t get me started on how we treat caregivers in this community.
Because heaven forbid you’re a caregiver who can’t handle trauma dumping, or can’t take care of littles who lash out in anger or have temper tantrums, because that apparently makes it so you ‘shouldn’t be a part of the community’ because if you ‘can’t handle one part you shouldn’t be allowed to be in any part of it.’ Or the fact that we never talk about regressor’s taking advantage of and hurting caregivers, being manipulating, or acting like they aren’t real people? I could go on but that’s for another time.
I get it, agere is a coping mechanism and no it’s not always sunshine and rainbows and we enjoy seeing those aspects that feel real, I also realize there are so many niche subgroups that don’t get enough exposure and I love posts highlighting those experiences, but seeing posts that talk about what is ‘okay’ to do when regressed and what makes someone valid, so long as they are going against what everyone else’s is doing just feels like it’s doing the opposite of trying to bring the community together or whatever it is that’s trying to be attempted. Honestly it makes me feel bad about my own regression because I fall into a lot of those ‘sterotypes’ people seem to hate so much. It’s one reason why I really don’t post about how I actually am small.
Saying you only want to see boyre is fine, posting about niche topics is fine, regressing however you want is fine- but acting like people who post feminine things, who enjoy something that a lot of other people do, don’t feel comfortable talking about darker parts of their regression online, aren’t a picture perfect version of what we like to imagine fictional caregivers to be, or anything else, saying those people are causing some sort of problem just feels wrong.
awareness for people who watch stimboards on Pinterest ⓘ
If you're a little, pet, cg, flip, etc etc who likes to go on Pinterest to watch stimboard videos, please block an account who goes by @/sincerelyforeveryours.
While this account explains that she's makes annoying stimboards and that "they're not supposed to be taken seriously anyway" she posts stimboard videos with the false hope that they're safe. (Putting "/safe/srs") On every video she posted. When in reality they're anything but.
She makes harmless looking ones and then adds loud jumpscares randomly during the video. If not jumpscares, flashing lights that causes headaches and might trigger someone with epilepsy. (I, don't have epilepsy, but her flashing lights gave me headaches)
And it's unfortunate that her stimboards actually caused hospital accidents for some people who viewed her stimboards unknowingly of the unexpected scares added). She refuses to change her stimboards even when she "promises" to add warnings. She never did.
THESE ARE EXTREMELY MISLEADING! I had the misfortune of stumbling onto one of these when regressed and left the video with a headache, and a sobbing mess from a horrible panic attack. These stimboards may cause epilepsy, anxiety triggers, cause relapses, etc.. don't be fooled with the "safe" written on the boards.
Please stay away from this account. She's a troll and she SENT SOMEONE TO THE HOSPITAL. POSSIBLY MORE. BLOCK AND REPORT HER PLEASE.
I've been insecure about my regression for a while
Most of the people who knew, supported, and interacted with my regression irl, I am no longer close to. I've been extremely busy, stressed, and full of self-doubt. I've also been worried about my online presence and if I'm representing myself clearly. All of this has made it hard to regress comfortably.
But I've found myself missing this community greatly.
So, slowly but surely, I'm going to start posting again. I'm going to start with responding to all messages and asks you've left me while I've been gone, and I'll start up my queue again.
I've also been considering making a side blog, one where I can worry less about being a perfect little and talk about my other interests. Maybe even making another blog for alterhumanity? Nothing is set in stone, but lmk if you have an opinion!
It's just complicated, all jumbled up in my head. I want to be seen as a person and not just a little, but I'm also so desperate to be coddled and cared for. My regression isn't cute or perfect. It's messy with big feelings that I'm too small to put into words sometimes. I keep reading fics about regression, and it makes me want so bad, not just for a cg, but to be known and to be loved without feeling ashamed. I want to be held when I'm fussy. I want to spread out on the floor and play with my clipclops with friends, to draw them pictures and feel safe. But I can't be that vulnerable with people. So it's just been... hard.
Maybe I'll find what I'm looking for, maybe I won't. Either way, I'm excited to be back and to see all of you again
note: slight mentions of trauma/mental health issues
- can only do/feel comfortable with non-physical punishments
- feel uncomfortable with calling carers daddy, having a masc presenting one
- feel uncomfortable using parental names
- are very sensitive in their headspace and need constant reassurance
- have impure regression, or use regression to cope with mental health problems
- have trauma is linked to their regressing
- have age regression blocks or periods that there's a lot of regressing, and then none (you're still a regressor -fellow one who does this)
- when tiny, struggle to self-regulate and feel a lot of big feelings intensely
- have a lot, or mostly involuntary regression that's really bumpy- switching from little age to little age
- regress so tiny, that they also get frustrated with the effects (ex: upset it's hard to use your words, or can't walk around without stumbling/bumping into things -also me)
- have big or intrusive thoughts while tiny
- are flips (you don't have to be big, let alone a caregiver all the time)
- feel tiny, but not tiny enough for most activities (like too big for coloring, dolls, cartoon, etc)
As someone who also struggles with most of these things, I think it's important to talk about them. Yes, they don't fit the "cutesy pinterest tiktok agere" people are used to, but regression is different for everyone. I just wanna say, you're not alone.
