#aging goals

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owned [w/ love acceptance & sass] by grandma

HIDDEN AGENDA | EPISODE 7

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Life taketh, and life giveth.

I lost an aunt on November 11th.

I was told I would be an aunt on November 12th.

All things balanced, as they should be. Life for life. Not that aunt Beverly’s death has any impact on this, in reality, it’s another strange coincidence – very strange, but not unexpected. My brother has always wanted a family, and I know he and his girlfriend were living together out in Japan, and have already had discussions about marriage and children.

They’re both quite happy.

While this is rather personal news and has little bearing on the overall theme of the blog, it’s a good time to reflect on the truth that death MUST occur for life.

More than that, it reminds me of Aging Goals.

I’ve asked you all before to have role models who are senior citizens. My mom sent me a video of a grandma who spewed profanity and dealt with her grandkids pranking her, and the message “Granny Role Model?” – naturally, I encouraged this.

My parents, I don’t think, ever had a real plan to be grandparents. Or a hope. They never forced it upon us, never asked us when we would have children. They are taking this in stride, and happily, but it seems to have blindsided both of them.

I wanted to be an Aunt, and as this wasn’t in conflict with my brother’s desires to be a father, I was not blindsided in the least. I’m thrilled! I will have a child to spoil, to teach, and to be there for, even if right now they’re half a world away, developing within my brother’s girlfriend, who is just as happy about this situation.

I’m going to be an Aunt!

And while the title always evoked pictures of middle-aged women with some wrinkles, and beginning to gray (and while I do not yet match that), it’s not a title I’m backing away from. With this age, with this progression, comes so many wonderful opportunities! How can I fear it, even if it means getting closer to death?

How can I do anything but embrace it lovingly, and imagine the titles beyond it, like Great Aunt? Like Sister-In-Law?

Aging Goals, I think, are as important as senior citizen role models. Now, this is one I could not control, so it’s probably not the best time of goal to have. There are goals that exist, though!

Cosplay goals exist for me – The Madame from Aristocats is a goal! Amilyn Holdo, again, is a goal. General Leia, not Princess Leia. Ellie, from Up. There’s so many, of many ages in-between, that I don’t feel confident in pulling off now, but could do later.

There are other kinds of goals beyond cosplay, too.

Maybe you’d like to visit some place for a certain celebration – like a Centennial Celebration? My trip to Disney ends up being during its 50th year anniversary, so there are things like that, with all sorts of places. The Statue of Liberty probably has something coming up that’s notable. Or Star Trek fandom. These don’t necessarily mark your age, but they would be at an age in your life.

You can make a goal to be there, at that time, at that age.

You can use competition to help – perhaps you want to read so many books by a certain age. Or learn a language by a certain age. Using that boost of competitive spirit, can get you there!

If you want to think in titles, like this one, there are obtainable titles you can earn for yourself. You can apprentice yourself in a craft, or you can go to college, to get professional titles. You can publish a book, to be an “author”. That can help to motivate you, and become something of an Age or Aging goal.

For most of these (perhaps not travel and celebration ones), it’s okay not to have exact ages, but an age range.

Reading 1,000 books by your 50s, for example. That gives some leeway. Shit happens, after all.

Whatever the case, the idea here is to make goals that can help with aging, because it shows progress in life, not the terrible fact of aging that always goes along with progress. The focus shifts to that progress, not to your age.

Anyways – I’m going to be an Aunt!!! New life is entering this world, and I’m going to be the aunt I never had for this little fucker, the aunt I always wanted. I guess I should figure out how to start a college fund or something….

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Debbie Harry at 72

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At the supermarket I passed a cheerful grandma who was grandma in every way, with grandma clothes and grandma glasses and a grandma haircut which was, unaccountably, dyed bright purple.

This pleased me.