Throwaway account because the lads on the team follow my main and I’ll never hear the end of it if they see me pouring my heart out on Reddit.
So, I (26M) play hockey. I’m not saying I’m the next big thing, but I’m handy enough on the ice and I’ve managed to pick up a bit of a following lately. Usually, it’s grand—just people showing up to support the club.
I’m a pretty low-key fella outside of the rink. I like to grab a coffee, keep my head down, and rot my brain watching absolute pure shite on the telly to unwind. I don't look for drama, like.
But there’s this one girl who’s been at every single match lately. I don't know her name, but "obsessed" would be putting it mildly. At first, I thought it was sweet, a bit of a laugh, you know? But it’s started getting properly head-wrecking.
When I’m in the middle of a play, I need to focus. Meanwhile, she’s in the stands screaming my name at the top of her lungs—not even cheering for the team, just shrieking at me specifically. It’s distracting as hell when you’re trying to read the game.
Anyway, we’re mid-match the other night, high intensity, and she starts up again. It was piercing. Without even thinking, I looked over and shouted, "Will you just buzz off and shut your mouth!" It wasn't my finest moment, and I definitely used a bit more "colourful" language than that, to be fair.
The look on her face was pure shock, and now I’m feeling like a bit of a gombeen. She was being loud as fuck, man, but did I go too far by snapping at a fan while I was on the clock?
Yaknow I read an AITA thing like years ago about someone who had several roommates that were having a go at them for taking forever in the bathroom once a week. Then they explained that thats when they'd take a load of gummies and take a shower, sort of slithering around in the dark for a night of self care and let me tell you. Life changing. I still think about it every once in a while and I'll treat myself to a dark shower where I just. Sit for a bit. Revolutionary. Not gonna be taking drugs/psychedelics any time soon but I can only imagine it improves the experience
Why is it that those AITA posts on reddit will always be one of the two:
1. AITA for *completely outrageous thing that makes you say YES?!?!* when you read the title but then by the end your actually agreeing with the poster
2. AITA for *something that you could reason with and makes you think well that doesn't sound that bad* but then you read it and this mf has done the most outrageous shit you could imagine
Here's an example:
"AITA for kicking my sister in law and ruining her wedding?" And you would say YES YOU SOUND LIKE AN ASSHOLE?!? but then when you read it, turns out the sister in law killed her cat and her grandma or smth
Or example no. 2:
"AITA for telling my fiance the truth?" And you say "well telling the truth is important and between partners it should be a given" then you read it and realize this dude insulted his partners hobbies or her appearance and made her feel like shit
On the matter of my 'risk it for the biscuit' reblog.
It's been pointed out to me that my argument is flawed, and full of more holes than a rusty Australian shed, and that basically I know nothing about how anything in a relationship works.
Allow me to address this.
My rant was flawed. I was angry (Still am) and I am hurting (Still am) from several recent emotional traumas of my own involving my family, which I won't talk about here. As a result, the rant was in pieces, and picked apart things I shouldn't have because I found them irritating at the time.
The majority of what I wanted to say were both parties were assholes. It being reactionary does not excuse it as such. I am not saying the guy didn't deserve to be dumped. He did. But having someone laugh in your face is both insulting and disrespectful. I get it, she was hurting. But that's why it's more important to not respond until you've got the required calm mind. And don't let someone else speak for you. This has come up now in my own family issues, which is probably why I hit on this so hard.
I do not like how things went down in the story. I think he got progressively more and more dickish, until he was undeniably the asshole. However, I just wanted to point out that yes, he was the asshole, but his girlfriend wasn't exactly a saint. I made a mistake when I said they were together. Truthfully, there is no real evidence of that, just what the guy said he saw and therefore what he decided must be truth.
I apologise for that. It was wrong of me, and I messed up.
I don't agree with laughing at him. If he was trying to force his way in, I have no issue with the threat of calling the police. If they saw or knew who it was upon opening the door, which was another assumption I made and a wrong one, I'd have understood better if they'd refused him entry and then, if he persisted, called the police.
I read the comments on the post, and saw several comments relating to gender, as well as one generalising straight white guys, and that pushed me to bring up the LGBTQ+ elements in the last paragraph of my rant, another mistake on my part, but one that annoyed me none the less. The holiday doesn't matter either, that's again, my mistake for fixating on that.
The assumption of homelessness more came from him mentioning his stuff was at her place, and he couldn't 'go home' due to his family saying no thanks to COVID.
In my eyes, a motel does not a home make. Nor does your mate's couch. But, if he has either one of those, I have no real reason to complain. Again, that is on me. I was ranting badly, and I didn't think.
It was explained to me that I was victim blaming, and undermining the concept of the freedom to not be abused essentially. Basically, I'm being the scum of the earth. This is not something I wish to be seen as. I hate being told that I don't know about defensive reactions to toxic behaviour. I know it far too well. And I know how toxic reactions can get.
I just don't appreciate someone being lauded when they're not perfect for the way they're doing it. That's all. I never wanted to blame the victim. I was angry, I didn't think straight, and I said things stupidly and fixated on stupid things that, at the end of the day, were irrelevant.
I, like everyone else, am not a perfect human being. I make mistakes. But I am trying my best to learn from them, and be better. I was not trying to vilify her in her actions, but it definitely came out that way when I wrote it, and once again I apologise for that. He was the asshole, no doubt.
