I’m probably repeating myself, but I find it very frustrating how poorly done the portrayal of Alex’s PTSD is in RNM. such a bad case of telling instead of showing. it’s mentioned several times but we never actually see it affect him at all. it’s not even made clear whether the PTSD is from the war and/or from Jesse’s abuse.
it makes it hard to believe that Alex is particularly traumatized at all when they don’t seem to find a good way of ever showing it, except for in his internalized homophobia. like when Jesse is pretending to be weak after the stroke, there are times when he makes sudden aggressive movements, causing loud noises and Alex doesn’t even flinch. you want to me to believe that someone who was an abused kid would not flinch when his abuser makes a sudden move like that? even having experienced war wouldn’t cure you of being tense and skittish around your childhood abuser. that shit runs deep. there is just not the right kind of tension between them. Alex should still be tense around his dad, and he’s just not. having grown up with an emotionally, albeit not physically, abusive dad myself I’d expect to see myself in a character like Alex, but I don’t, at all. I get the vibe that the person or people who wrote their scenes does not have their own experiences of parental abuse, it just seems written from a “this is my idea of what it’d be like” type of perspective rather than that of someone having lived it, which is disappointing.
and yes, I admit this frustration is in part because I’m an ahole who enjoys seeing characters I like suffer, and I would have very much liked some scenes with Alex having mental breakdowns or in some milder way being triggered. but I also really dislike mental illness being represented only through dialogue and not actually shown in any way, besides the obvious that it’s also bad writing.