#allosocial

[neopronouns]

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allosocial introvert | asocial extrovert

allosocial introvert and asocial extrovert flags for anon! i couldn't find an allosocial flag, so i mainly used cyan (opposite of the red used in the asocial flag).

tags: @radiomogai, @dragonpride17, @orientation-archive

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[foolishfynnesse]

Okay, wait, what’s social attraction? For the longest time I thought that it was the desire to socialize and feel belonging in a group of people, but I think I might be slightly off the mark here? I looked it up here on tumblr and definitions are saying that social attraction is when you look up to/want to be like someone and therefore want to socialize with them (or, at least, that’s one potential aspect of it, I think)? I’m pretty confused as to what exactly social attraction is. Because, with the definition I thought it had, I would definitely be allosocial, but with the definition I’m finding now, I’m not entirely sure. Thinking about it, idk if I necessarily look up to people that much (real people, anyway). I mean, sure, I don’t want to be the way that I am now forever, but I don’t really have much of anyone whose example I want to follow. Is that why I don’t have that much direction in my life at the moment?

Is my previous question a result of internalized aso*phobia?

Anyway, any info or advice would be greatly appreciated here.

*the shorthand for “asocial” is “aso”

[mastreworld]

Allosocial... and not

Just realized that "allosocial" is a useful word to describe mainstream people who relate to others in a different way than I do.

I'm not simply talking about autism here, even though I have it, since most autistics I've met have the same need for social contact that non-autistics do. This is a subset of diverse neurological functioning where we don't have a natural inclination to seek out others and bond with them. We're very content being alone and even prefer it.

Personally, I can enjoy company under the right circumstances and I can and do get attached to individual people but social contact and human beings are not central in my life the way they are to allosocials.

This is a very difficult concept for mainstream people to grasp and they often try to explain it away with "it's just anxiety" but no, whatever anxiety I've had in my life has come from others refusing to accept me as I am and being rude about it. This is an inherent part of who I am due to genetics and brain function.

For me, it's as hard to imagine being allosocial as it is for them to imagine being me. I can't quite fathom what it's like to put social contact above everything else, to center your activities around it and plan your relationships long before you've found someone to have them with. Yet, I can accept that it's how many people function.

Is it too much to ask that they accept how I, and others like me, function?

[mastreworld]

I just heard something interesting. Someone close to my family said that they find it difficult to form relationships with people online because she can't see their body-language. This could explain why allo-social people are so dependent on being in the same physical space to connect with each other and find online contact inferior.

[mastreworld]

I keep being amazed at how central socializing is for allo-social people. Fifty plus years and I still get moments of "Oh, that's why people do those things; to meet other people!".