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hi im a bit confused because i have described myself as polyamorous, although i feel like i could be aromantic as well?. I have immense feelings to give to people that i do care about and would say i love them, but i would not say i romantically love them or desire to have a romantic relationship with them. Would I not be polyamorous if I am aromantic?

My experience with and knowledge of aromanticism is that it’s incredibly easy to mistake as being m-spec or polyamorous.

There’s really no gender-related boundaries around who we’re attracted to, because... we’re not attracted to anyone. We also tend to conflate platonic or nonromantic love in general with romantic attraction; any desire to be close to a person, to form an intimate emotional relationship with them, is often mistaken as romantic attraction. If we feel that toward people regardless of gender, we might see that as panromantic; if we have a heavy preference for certain gender, we might see that as an orientation; and since we’re rarely picky about how many people we’re emotionally intimate with, we often see that as being polyamorous.

So basically, it’s possible to conflate aromanticism with polyamory. With no frame of reference, it’s easy to conflate anything with romantic attraction. And it sounds a lot like you might be aromantic, but describing your orienatation through other feelings.

But it’s also possible, and in fact somewhat common, to define your orientation through other forms of attraction than romantic or sexual. A lot of people will use queer/quasiplatonic attraction to describe their orientation, and some also use straight-up platonic, or even sensual or aesthetic attraction, to describe their orientations.

It’s really up to you, and what you feel most connected to.

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everything is perceived through the lens of everyone's individual experiences. a quote could be understood so many different ways dependent on the feelings evoked based on why they were able to relate to it. a picture of an empty street could fill me with gloom and you with peace. a picture of holding hands could remind me of love and you of your recent heart break. a quote about letting go could be empowering to you and bittersweet to me. our tumblr pages could look exactly the same, yet we would perceive them completely differently and assume others are understanding the subtle sentiment behind each post. but nobody besides yourself will ever understand you. everyone besides yourself will always misinterpret you, no matter what you do. and in an attempt to understand them understanding you, you may even misinterpret yourself. so what's the point in trying? just be & react without consideration for others. that's what they all do anyways.

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