Mar 7, 2016
It’s the fear of loss, unchecked fear and insatiable suspicion that destroys relationships.
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It’s the fear of loss, unchecked fear and insatiable suspicion that destroys relationships.
One of the easiest traps to fall into with a long distance relationship is fearing you’ll lose him. That fear of loss grows into an obsession and, at that point, your once light and fun conversations take on the feel of an interrogation. It starts to feel like you’re constantly probing his feelings for you and fishing for signs that he still cares about you as much as he used to.
Worrying about your relationship is wasted energy. Actually, it’s worse – it’s a ritual that drains you of your happiness and replaces it with fear. It removes your enjoyment of the relationship and creates a suffocating sense of emotional starvation, where you are begging for him to prove that he cares.
Give him space and focus on loving yourself and your life. If you do this, he will most likely come around and will go back to being that sweet, caring, attentive guy that he was in the beginning.
"If a guy is telling you he's 'too busy' what he's really saying is, 'You're not important enough to make time for.' When he wants to make time, he does. It's as simple as that." — Sabrina Alexis
"When you enter into a new relationship with fear in your heart, your focus won't be on what you have, but rather, on what you stand to lose.” — Sabrina Alexis
“Happiness isn't owed to you, and it doesn't come from your relationship. You create your own sense of happiness and fulfillment.” — Sabrina Alexis
How To Get The Relationship You Deserve
I've been reading the relationship blog "A New Mode" and Sabrina offers a lot of really good advice. Here are the top tips that I think every person should keep in mind when seeking a relationship - it will help you get the one you deserve! 1) Matching is important. Only reveal as much about yourself as he does. What he reveals to you about himself will tell you what type of person he is. 2) Be unpredictable. Act as you would if you had other guys and other things going on in your life; don't always respond right away or always be available to meet up. Don't ever make him the priority when you're not yet his. 4) We appreciate what we had to EARN. Make him wonder whether you like him or not - then he will WORK to get you to like him. 5) Don't let him push you into doing anything you aren't yet ready for. Show that you respect yourself and he will respect you. Someone who doesn't respect you doesn't deserve you.