#angelicallyafrican

[thegardenofbae]

2023 i’m loc’ing my hair.

[leveluponabuck]

Don’t forget you can even do your date at home. It may not be “healthy”, but I may get a Bertolli frozen dinner and have a glass of something sparkly! Or I may just have something sparkly and a nice dessert.  Remember to use your fanciest dishes, just for you! Your deserve it!

[thegardenofbae]

𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐲. 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐜𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐝𝐲. 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞. 𝐌𝐨𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐧. 𝐏𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐚 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐦𝐞. 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐛𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐟𝐚𝐬𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟. 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐬. 𝐃𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐫. 𝐃𝐨 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.

[thegardenofbae]

𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐠𝐢𝐫𝐥𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐟𝐭 𝐠𝐥𝐚𝐦 ✨

[thegardenofbae]

𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 ✨

[thegardenofbae]

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 ✨𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐆𝐢𝐫𝐥✨

The "that girl" trend was something that I recently came across on TikTok. That girl is described as that one girl we all know that seems to have her entire life together, has the perfect work-life balance, prioritizes her health, has this calm aura around her that just makes you hope that even a fraction of her essence will rub off on you. I like the that girl trend because it's like the hot girl summer trend, but it's more focused on wellness and becoming your best self.

Becoming "that girl" is something I think is attainable if you're willing to be dedicated to the lifestyle. It will involve breaking some pre-existing bad habits, and adopting some newer alternatives, but I believe it will overall benefit and enhance your life. So here's @angelicallyafrican's guide to becoming ✨that girl✨

Create a morning routine

A ✨that girl✨ morning routine would look something like:

Waking up early (between 6-8 am)

Making the bed

Opening the blinds/curtains to let the light in

Doing a page in your Five Minute Journal

Doing some sort of intentional movement (weight lifting, going on a walk/run, doing yoga or pilates, etc)

Having a healthy breakfast that nourishes your body

Drinking LOTS of water

Spraying a beautiful fragrance

Getting dressed in an outfit that makes you feel good

Going over your to-do list

Starting your work or school day

So this is what I've got from most of the ✨that girl✨ videos. They emphasize that how you start your day is crucial to feeling and actually having a more put-together life.

[thegardenofbae]

𝐎𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐛𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧...

A few days ago, I got an anon request asking me

To share tips on how to be elegant as a black woman, so here’s my take on being elegant as a black woman.

𝐈𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤

Have and maintain your boundaries. Over extending yourself isn’t self satisfying, and rarely if ever, you’re able to actually be there for others. Saying no isn’t a bad thing and it is t rude. Don’t feel bad or guilty to where you add a bunch of excuses after respectfully declining.

Become more self aware. Know what your likes and dislikes are, what your boundaries are, what you’re passionate about, your style, all the things that make you who you are. Nobody should be able to know you better than you know yourself. Self awareness comes with a confidence and ease that makes moving through life easier, and love the person you are to the fullest.

Be kind. Being firm and self aware is a necessity, but it should always be coupled with kindness. Be a listening ear or a helping hand to those who need it, but remember your boundaries. Be warm towards all. Elegance ≠ being a snob, being catty, being mean, or being rude.

𝐎𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤

Identify your own personal style. Clothes should never look like they’re wearing you, you should always look like you’re wearing the clothes. Not only should you be concerned about your clothes, but accessorizing in a way that’s almost natural. Once you find your style, you’ll find that any outfit you put on will feel right on you, and you’ll be able to move with much ease.

Find your signature scent. I think nothing is more beautiful than a well dressed woman with a beautifully paired fragrance. Go to Sephora, Macy’s , or Saks and have an associate help you. Think about what scents you like, such as like edible scents, florals, fruity, woody, etc. Once you discover it, wear it all the time. This scent is what people will remember of you whenever they smell it. It’s powerful!

Keep in my mind your body language. The way you walk, talk, smile, and move are all indicative of an elegant woman. When you walk, keep your chest up, shoulders back, and chin slightly lifted. Smile genuinely. There’s nothing more beautiful than an authentic, warm smile. When you speak, speak clearly so you can be understood. Listen actively.

[thegardenofbae]

I spend so much time soaking in bubble baths, I might as well start making my own bath products 🛁✨