#bettering yourself

[ometochtli2rabbit]

[jolleyrancherconsum3r]

Prove them wrong babes ♥️

[ayshahxxss]

How to Stop Caring About What People Think of You and Stop Craving External Validation

Okay, first of all, I’d like to say that I hate it when “how to heal” YouTubers and content creators don’t get straight to the point, so that’s exactly what I’m going to do.

The truth is, you can’t fully stop caring about what people think of you. That’s just not possible. Many people will try to tell you that they really don’t care, but deep down, a small part of them does.

The first step is to admit to yourself that you do care whether people like you or not and accept that it’s completely normal. It’s human to care about your reputation and how other people see you.

Then, try to detach from that fear. Walk past someone and do something you normally wouldn’t because of shyness. Give them a flower. Compliment them. Tell them they have a nice smile. Do something small that pushes you outside your comfort zone.

They’ll probably remember that for a long time because, whether we like to admit it or not, humans are naturally a little selfish. Not necessarily in a cruel way, but in the sense that we’re all the main characters in our own lives. We spend most of our time thinking about ourselves—how we look, what people think of us, whether we embarrassed ourselves, and how we come across. So when you give someone a compliment or make them happy, they’re much more likely to remember it because they’re involved. It becomes part of their story. But your hairstyle, your outfit, your opinions, or that “embarrassing” thing you did don’t involve them. They might notice those things, maybe even judge them for a minute, but they’ll move on because they’re busy thinking about themselves, just like everyone else.

If you dye your hair an unconventional color or dress in a way that people wouldn’t consider “normal,” people might still look at you or give you unwanted attention. They might even laugh or whisper something to the person next to them. But they probably won’t remember it for very long, simply because your style has nothing to do with them. They’ll think about it for a few minutes at most, and then they’ll go back to thinking about their own lives.

Just think about it. Do you remember every embarrassing thing someone has done in front of you? Do you remember every stranger you saw wearing something you thought looked weird or funny? Probably not. But you do remember the compliments people gave you. You remember your own embarrassing moments. That’s because we’re all naturally more focused on ourselves than on everyone else.

You also have to realize that our lives are incredibly short. In the grand scheme of things, we don’t have nearly enough time to do everything we want to do. Not every dream will come true, and that’s okay. I think a small part of being human is always carrying a little sadness because we know that, no matter how much fun we’re having, everything eventually comes to an end.

When you’re dying, I can almost guarantee that you won’t be thinking about the people who judged you or stared at you because you were doing something “weird.” You’ll be thinking about what you did with your own life. All you get is a few decades. Use them to make yourself happy.

I also think it’s important to stop judging the people around you. It’s okay if someone does something you think is odd or dresses in a way you don’t like. People don’t owe you an explanation for their self-expression or style. The more accepting you become of other people’s differences, the easier it becomes to accept your own. Once you stop constantly judging the people around you, you’ll realize that most people aren’t constantly judging you either.

Honestly, you don’t have much time. Get that haircut. Buy that outfit. Change your major. Go out and do something fun instead of worrying about what people will think of you.

Your time here could end tomorrow, next week, or in a few decades. You never know. So stop living your life for everyone else, and start living it for yourself.

[aleesabella]

[lilyminer]

The first rule of self improvement is that you need to be both your own # 1 hater and # 1 fan at the same time.

Yes I know that’s confusing. It’s a weird balance to find but you’ll figure it out. It’s easier than it sounds.

[ureyesonly]

Layering Fragrance 101 *.𖥔݁ 

How to build your own unique scent combo

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✮⋆˙The Basics: Smelling good starts in the shower & ends in a spritz! 

1. Pick a body wash to serve as your foundational fragrance 2. Choose a scrub to compliment your body wash 3. Use scented lotion/body cream from head to toe 4. Apply a fragrance oil to your pulse points: neck, chest, crook of your elbows, wrists, behind your knees, and ankles 5. Spray a fragrance mist all over 6. Choose a perfume to lock everything in

✮⋆˙Base Notes, Middle Notes, and Top Notes: The building blocks of fragrance

To put it simply:

Base notes: The foundational scent that adds warmth and depth to your fragrance, the last thing you smell in your mix and what lasts the longest of all notes

Middle notes: The bridge between base and top notes; seamlessly ties scents together. The main course of the fragrance!

Top notes: The initial scent you smell, the loudest scent in a fragrance for the first few minutes

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Search the fragrance notes of your favorite perfume on Fragrantica!

Go to Bath and Body Works and smell different body sprays, then flip the bottle around to see the notes on the back

Find the common notes you like when comparing your favorite scents. Do you notice a pattern of fruity notes? Musky? Sweet?

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!! : Once you have an idea of what notes you like and what they smell like paired with other notes, you’ll have a better understanding of how to maximize your scent building and layering.

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Now to Layer……

Pick a theme for your scent combo. Here’s an example of my combo when I’m in the mood to smell fruity and tropical:

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✮⋆˙So let’s build a hypothetical scent combo together, shall we? Let's say I want to smell like a chocolate banana crepe. Random scent that doesn’t exist, right?

⭒˚I’d probably start off with a body wash that has some sort of nutmeg, cinnamon, or amber scent. Or maybe something with a gourmand accord note. 

Here are some body wash options I’d consider for this combo: Olay - Sugar & Cocoa Butter  Philosophy - Fresh Cream Warm Cashmere  Bath and Body Works - Christmas Cookies Caress - Shea Butter & Brown Sugar

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⭒˚Next up is a scrub. I’d look for something with similar notes, but not exactly the same. Maybe this time something to represent the banana or sweetness of a crepe. If you can find a matching scrub, that works too– but I personally like to mix and match to really make my own scent. 

Here are some body scrub options I’d consider for this combo: Soap & Glory - Smoothie Star Breakfast Scrub Dove - Crushed Macadamia & Rice Milk Dove - Hot Cocoa Swirl

!! : Body wash and scrubs are pretty forgiving. Remember, you don't have to stick to strict fragrance notes to pull off a scent combo– venture out! Pair whatever you think might smell good together. Smell is subjective :) 

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⭒˚Next is a body moisturizer of some kind. This can be a body cream, lotion, body butter, or even body oil (though I’m not too well versed in body oils). Since we have the basics covered, now I can either double up on some notes or introduce new notes like whipped cream, vanilla, chocolate fudge, etc. 

Here are some moisturizer options I’d consider for this combo: Kwailnara - Banana Milk  Being Frenshe - Moon Milk Bodycology - Whipped Vanilla

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⭒˚Moving on to fragrance oil. Again, doubling up or introducing new notes.

Here are some fragrance oil options I’d consider for this combo: Al-rehab - Choco Musk Roll On Oil  H&M - Choc Sugar Milk - Banana Pudding 

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⭒˚Almost done! Let’s pick a body spray. 

Here are some body spray options I’d consider for this combo: Dirty Soul Soap Co. - Banana Milk Pie Body Fantasies Signature - Vanilla Bath and Body Works - Hot Cocoa & Cream

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⭒˚Last but certainly not least, perfume!! Finally…. 

Here are some perfume options I’d consider for this combo: Sabrina Carpenter - Sweet Tooth Comptoir Sud Pacifique - Vanille Banane Ariana Grande - Vanilla Suede 

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Phew!!!! I don't know about you people but my mental nose is completely blind at the moment. So many scents to choose from! Again, don’t feel confined to making sure every product has a certain fragrance note– it's pretty impossible. Play around with different scents: spray perfumes over each other and test them out. Mix body washes if you want! Who cares? Your next favorite body scent might just be two separate scents that were never meant to go together, and you’ll be the only one wearing it <3

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Xx.malice.xX

[kittenmochi]

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