#anger control

[furiousgoldfish]

people will tell abuse victims to ‘forgive’ and ‘stop being so bitter’ instead of admiring us for not turning homicidal with rage

[tante-litfass]

[unseendeity]

for @meanwhilemisha22 (•‿•)

[tattooed-teadrinker]

Today I let myself get angry.

My time and work are valuable, and I REFUSE to let people take advantage of me.

You knew better, and you still pushed me.

Do me a favor, go fuck yourself.

- side note -

I angrily ate 12 Xmas cookies instead of punching a wall.

[mindfulawareness]

No one has ever been angry at another human being. We're only angry at our story of them.

Byron Katie

[nancynofer-blog]

A Long Term Relation

Recently I've acknowledged in our century that almost no one is being able to handle a healthy long term relationship.

And by mentioning relationship I mean all kinds of relations; family, friends, kids, etc..

We've became more harsh and short tempered and our easiest solution for anything is to break the relation and leave.

If we looked back to old centuries, it's obvious to concur the difference.

People used to have relations that never break till death, although same incidents happen now and the only difference is in the attitudes that show lack of LOVE.

Love is a base that builds a beautiful relation between any two humans, but only if we acknowledged the real meaning of love, then we can have healthy long relations.

Love is meant to include everyone you deal with, and never to be limited into the frame of feelings.

Feelings is just a part of it and even if that frame is not there, love can still exist.

Feelings are so good when found , but in most cases they change by time and might disappear and the only thing that will let a relation lasts are few other important keys.

Let's take an example to show us the importance of some keys of love in a relation more than feelings:

Imagine that;

Relation = Balloon

Feelings = Air

Keys maintaining long term relation = Tying a balloon

Time of lasting a relation = Duration of flying.

Fill a balloon with air and do not tie it and let it fly.

The balloon will keep flying for a very short time and shrinking till there is no air in it anymore.

Then the balloon will fall on the ground quickly and empty.

And that is all because it was not tied from the beginning.

Tying a relation to last long is based on attitudes as mentioned above and here we can say good attitudes; intentions, actions and reactions.

And to be specific the 2 main rocks for good attitudes are: Anger control and Forgiveness.

If these 2 main rocks are in any relation with consistency without even having feelings of love, they will not only build a good relation but will also make it a life time one.

And these 2 rocks can grow a new taste of feelings that will be always remembered by the people surrounding that kind of person who was able to practice and maintain those 2 rocks in a relation.

1. Anger control doesn't mean not to express your feelings of anger, but to express it in the right time with a good attitude.

2. And Forgiveness doesn't mean to keep accepting bad attitudes from people and let them always take you for granted but to acknowledge the weak points in the other person, set suitable boundaries accordingly that keeps you safe from future harm and never take revenge.

Consistency in doing these 2 main rocks in any relation on daily basis can be tied up in one word which is perseverance.

Am sorry to say that our communities and societies nowadays never gave us the chance to practice anger control, forgiveness and tie them up with perseverance to be able to build true love that last a long term relation.

They only teach us how to be center focused on ourselves trying to survive in the best way without losing anything or sacrificing and that made us lose our humanity and even be worse than robots that sometimes some people think that life is a game and you have to win and never lose.

I wish one day when people witness that;

We can build schools and colleges teaching only "humanity", and graduating from it is based only on good attitudes of daily practical human communications.

[gvfmarge]

So I'm not sure if I even want to ask this, but I'm needing a bit of advice. So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, we're planning a wedding and everything and we live together. So lately, and I'm not sure why, but if something makes him upset or if something doesn't go right, he just yells and gets so mad. Like today, he was going to another town to trade his motorcycle. He never told me this, but he had planned for his parents to come over tonight for dinner. I called him for something and he finally told me (while I'm making dinner) that he was going to do this, I questioned if he forgot we were having dinner and out of no where he just starts yelling and saying that no one ever tells him anything. While he's the one who planned this???? It makes me like insanely upset because once someone starts yelling or even gets mad, I get really emotional and I can't help it. It is so childish of him and I can't help but get mad if I think about him doing it. What could I do? Does anyone else have a partner or friend who is the same way? How can I help him cope with his anger without suddenly blowing up? Could this be some sort of disorder he has? Note: he has never ever hit or physically abused me, and I do not consider this mental abuse as he doesn't try to make me feel less or blame me. He just blows up for absolutely no reason.

[jeveuxuncafe-blog]

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