#anti-alignment

[wedontcareaboutyourbinary]

not feminine =/= masculine

[wedontcareaboutyourbinary]

Under the guise of “accepting” and “supporting” non-binary people, cis people have went from asking “are you a male or a female" to "are you male-ALIGNED or female-ALIGNED" and have given themselves a pat on the back for this ‘change’.

Don’t be fooled. They’re still seeing you as either ‘basically’ male and female. It’s purely performative and a way to misgender you, a way to call non-women, women, and a way to call non-men, men, with a clear conscience. You do not have to stand for this. You do not have to choose alignment.

You are non-binary, regardless of whether you’re closer to one binary gender than another. You don’t have to hide or bury or prioritise partial male/female gender identity over your nonbinary identity, which is complete and important on it’s own, to make it more palatable to binary people. You’re non-binary and that’s beautiful.

[wedontcareaboutyourbinary]

Being non-binary and deciding to align with a binary gender should be a personal choice.

NOT something you’re pressured into by a cis, binary society.

Rejecting these binary alignments is also a personal choice. Alignment is optional, not mandatory. Being nonbinary is enough.

[wedontcareaboutyourbinary]

This blog isn’t blaming non-binaries who use alignment terminology for aligning themselves. There are valid reasons to use it, and if it works for you over other ways to talk about how you might relate to binary genders, go ahead. This blog’s purpose is to simply spread the word that it’s not even possibly applicable to every NB person, nor is it a necessity, even if:

others tell you it is

your presentation is viewed as very masculine or feminine (whether by choice or not)

others percieve you as male/female

most of your gender is male/female

others try to apply it to you without your consent

It’s also to remind people that non-aligned NBs exist and to include us in their language and discussions and positivity posts and communities, and to stop centering and prioritising those who use alignment terminology over those who reject it. We’re ALL non-binary and ALL important and worth talking about, regardless of distance or closeness to binary genders.

[wedontcareaboutyourbinary]

I’m not gonna label myself male or female just because YOU can’t comprehend the fact I’m not. That’s a YOU problem.