#aroace posts

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

it's hating amatonormativity hours

[thesevenumbrellas]

“Monster fucker this” and “monster fucker that.” Well maybe the monsters asexual, have you considered that? Maybe the monster just wants to hang out. Maybe lie side by side and have a meaningful conversation. Maybe not everything’s about you, human.

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

there's something to be said about how public unawareness about aspec identities contributes to the infighting within the aspec communities.

for example, I've seen a lot of "don't say ace people don't have sex because that's harmful to the sex favourable aces" and the opposite: "don't say ace people can have sex because what about the sex repulsed/averse?"

and they're both valid points, but because of it, aspec posts have to cater to the entire spectrum or risk starting arguments over this. Ideally, people could look at an aspec post and accept that it's for a different part of the aro/ace spectrum to where they are, but that's where the public unawareness comes in

because outside of the aspec communities, there's so little understanding of what the terms mean, that people within the community have to make every post generic so that the unaware won't see one post and make an assumption for the entire community based on it.

I see where every side is coming from, but infighting doesn't really solve any of the issues. The only thing that can start to solve it is more expansive aspec media representation, and spreading the "aro/ace identities are a spectrum" posts as much as possible to reach outside of the community, rather than trying to make specific posts fit that generic message.

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

yes I'm aroace but I'm also so so gay

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

saw an anti ace-spec people post on the asexual tag today so I wanted to make a post:

for anyone who fits anywhere on the ace spectrum, no matter how you define sexual attraction and how often you feel it, no matter your past, no matter your other orientations, and no matter how confident you are in it. Have a happy international asexuality day, this day is for you :)

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

I loveeeee having an aroace blog, I love seeing all the little aspec flag icons in the notes, I love knowing people relate, I love seeing additions and experiences in the tags, I love having a community!

this is me saying you are all awesome!

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

trying to enjoy a party while everyone else talks about their sex and dating lives. worst feeling in the world