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23 | she/her | aroace

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

Hi! okay, I think it's time for an intro post, so:

This account will mainly be for posts about being aroace (especially my experience). Some reblogs, some original posts.

If anyone wants to talk or ask questions, my inbox is open and everyone is welcome to come talk :) please stay polite though :)

If you don't want spoilers, just block the tag '#whatisgoingoninspoilers', it's what I originally used this blog for and while I might use it less, I probably will still post stuff.

Info on my other accounts under the cut

That spoiler tag will block all the spoiler posts, but if you want to see some of them, each post will also have a most specific spoiler tag, so just block the ones you don't want to see.

If you followed for marvel posts, my writing account @imagine-knowing-a-name will probably have them more now, or my main account @nameforthemain which is where I will follow/reply from :)

[monkeyfishgirl]

Some good news for Pride Month

[monsoon-of-art]

[friend2-allbugs]

I love being aro

[aghostwithablog]

take my hand - let's be aroace on valentines day together <3

[waterhorseyblues-ao3]

Giving the BIGGEST wave and cheer and woop and holler to all the arospec and acespec people on this day ♠️

[aromantic-diaries]

The thing about qprs is that they are a lot harder to get into than romantic relationships because they just don't work the same

I'm a partnering aromantic who feels absolutely zero attraction, so while I did experience that feeling of yearning for a partner like alloromantic people do, I never got that signal of "that's it, that's the person I want to be with" that you're supposed to get when you feel romantic attraction. All I got was this sense of longing for Someone but no one was actually the right person that I would actually want to be with.

With my qpr I had to go the long way because I don't get the attraction that actually makes you want to be with that specific person. I knew my partner for almost two years before I reached the point where I knew I actually wanted to be in a qpr with him and even after that it took a while to become as comfortable with eachother as we are now. Neither of us feel any attraction towards eachother and I wouldn't have it any other way but it did mean that I really had to get to know him and even learn more about myself in order to get to where we are now

My point here is that if you're also looking for a qpr, don't approach it the same way you would do with dating because it simply does not work the same way. You can't really find that person the way one would find a romantic partner and the slow but efficient method is to find a person that you really click with on a level that you don't with most people and take the long route of letting it naturally develop as you get closer. It's a slow progress but in my case it sort of just happened. I was way too emotionally closed off when we first met and what I learned is that if you really want the full experience, you gotta let people in even if it takes years

[aromantic-diaries]

Sex repulsed people should not have to walk on eggshells when discussing their orientation and constantly remind everyone that they're totally fine with other people having sex and that they're not an anti-sex puritan. You're allowed to be grossed out by the thought of sex and you should not feel like a bad person for your discomfort, no explanation or justification needed. If anyone tells you you're harming others just by being grossed out they're full of shit

[didi-doof]

Can I offer some Perry’s in these trying times

[bloomeng]

a comic about my experience with asexuality

[aromantic-diaries]

Btw it's okay to be sad about being aromantic, sometimes it really does feel like a bummer. I promise it feels a lot better after a while but it really is okay to be sad about it

[anistarrose]

Oh, this red string you see wrapped around my finger? You're asking if it connects me to my one true love? An understandable mistake, but I'm aromantic. This is for my conspiracy board.

[gyogun-luo]

🖤🩶🤍💜

[convolutedblasphemy]

The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.

[shipperoftooncouples]

Sorry for the TRUE lesbians here, but this is very current in the life of every aroace girl.

[apolloendymion]

tbh it doesn't rly hurt teenagers to incorrectly id as ace like... what's the worst than could happen? they don't have sex till they're older?? lol

[apolloendymion]

"ohh but it'll take them longer to realize they're actually gay" i know my experiences aren't universal but like. if i wasn't ready to face my lesbianism then i was Not Ready, you could've eliminated every other label in existence and i still wouldn't have accepted it. if anything, the ability to try out different labels helped me learn about myself, explore the community, and accept that maybe not being straight wasn't so bad.

[apolloendymion]

also lots of people identify as bi before realizing they are gay, lots of people identify as gay before realizing they're bi, lots of people identify as gay before realizing they're trans, etc etc etc!!! exploring and getting it wrong is a necessary part of the process!!! why is it so different for aroace identities?????

[cuntnikida]

btw the a+ in lgbtqia+ stands for a+ as in a really good grade so remember to do your homowork and get good gays.