#aromantisism

[doginurbloodstream]

aromanticism.

[purple-mothman-majesty]

"why do y'all even need pride? nobody cares about aros/aces, I don't care that you don't experience romantic/sexual attraction."

I don't need your validation or anyone else's, that's not why I do what I do.

I talk about my experiences being aro & ace because maybe someone out there will feel seen for the first time, maybe I put into words what they have been trying their whole life to figure out and didn't even know other people like them exist.

I wear my pride rings in hopes that another aspec will notice and feel less alone and realize that there are more of us out there, that being aspec is something to take pride in, that they were never broken.

we do need more visibility and it would be great if everyone knew about asexuality and aromantisism, but when I do these things I hope that someone will see themself in me and have the confidence to be their authentic self unapologetically.

[noa-ciharu]

The sense of relief you feel as aro when you first discover aromantisism is unparalleled. The thank god there are more people like me and this isn't a defect like I've always thought. It's isolating living in the world where everyone treats romantic love as pinnacle of happiness where you not only don't feel it, but don't even understand it.

[rjalker]

Someone: That person is so hot!!

Me, aroace as fuck:

[starholdsystem]

Today I claim Villefort both as my gender AND as imaginary queerplatonic partner.

It's a small treat for me for today.

[essaimart]

a mood about aromantism - have a good pride month my guys

[valiah-posts]

Almost every single one of my friends are in love with someone and they always publish something about love, most of it are tiktoks. And I swear that I watch those things in my dash and I’m like: “why would you do that????? Like, it would be nice to dance in the rain... but hugging and kissing?????? Whaaat is this??? I cannot understand it wth???? Why would you react like that... for an audio of a person you hear all the time????? Is that how love should work????”

Romantic love seems so strange sometimes

[asexual-territory]

Aspecs are not "white people who want to be oppressed"

Acespec and arospec people are not "special snowflakes".

We are not "straights who want to be El Gee Bee Tee".

We are not celibates, or "pathetic virgins".

We are not "whites begging to be oppressed".

We are a group of people with a sexual identity with lives outside of this hellsite. And when you paint us as anything else, it is harmful, and it is hate. It is aphobia.

When you say these things, you are telling aces/aros of color that you don't recognize their identity, that asexuality/aromantisism is something made up by and only used by white people for attention. You're insinuating that there's something pathetic about being a virgin (spoiler alert: there isn't). You're telling every asexual and aromantic that has a marginalized identity that they do not know what it's like to be oppressed. Those of us with marginalized identities because of race, religion, disability, romantic/sexual orientation or gender identity (to name a few examples) have absolutely no desire to be further oppressed. We are not begging for it. We have enough as it is.

Maybe when aces/aros reach out saying that they have faced harassment for being asexual or aromantic, it's because they know what it feels like because they've faced it before. Listen to what we have to say. The vast majority of us are not liars. Painting all of us with the same color because of a few bad outliers is prejudice.

Maybe, just maybe, we are who we say we are. Stop pretending that your aphobia isn't hate just because it's directed towards those "whites who want to be oppressed".

My acespec and arospec pals stay strong, stay loud, and stay proud. Your experiences aren't fake. You aren't wrong for existing or asking for representation and visability.

Happy 20NoneTeen!!!

💚💜🖤