#ask an ace

[ask-an-asexual]

happy new year to alloromantic aces, aromantic aces, grey aces, polyamorous aces, monogamous aces, aces dating allos, aces dating aces, aces dating no one, nonbinary aces, intersex aces, disabled aces, neurodivergent aces, transmasc aces, transfem aces, fat aces, poor aces, Black aces, brown aces, sex-repulsed aces, sex-indifferent aces, sex-averse aces, sex-favourable aces, libidoist aces, nonlibidoist aces, out aces, closeted aces, baby aces, aces who've known for a long time, ace community leaders, proud aces, aces who struggle with self-acceptance, ace youth, ace elders, lesbian aces, gay aces, bi+ aces, aces whose native language lacks ace resources, aces who are involved in community, aces who are isolated from community — happy new year to all aces.

may 2025 be a great ace year.

[thecommunalfoolboy]

Ask an Ace!!!

I feel like there’s a lot of misunderstandings surrounding asexuality (and I have no shame and a lot of experience in the community) so if anyone has questions about asexuality ask in the notes!!

I’ll give answers both from my experience and more in general, but note I’m still one ace person so my ideas might not reflect the whole community.

Don’t worry about accidentally offending me idc 👍👍👍

Any other aces who want feel free to answer questions too!!

💜🤍🩶🖤

[creativemercinary]

Y'know what?

It's ace week. To help with raising awareness, I'll be answering ace-related questions (and other questions, really). They'll mostly be my experience as an asexual, but if it helps someone better understand asexuality or themselves, then it'll be worth it.

Ask box is open and I'll answer any ace questions you have.

[aceasks]

Anybody have questions for me?

[ask-an-asexual]

happy international asexuality day!

[ask-an-asexual]

@radiomogai experiences event, day 4

How do you express your identity through your behaviour or clothing? How does this relate to your identity? If you don't currently, would you like to in the future?

not really clothing, but the main thing is that i often wear an ace ring. i also have some ace earrings and clothes. in the future i want more ace pride merch and an ace ring that doesn't make my hand go weird, lol.

[ask-an-asexual]

Did you have any trouble accepting your ace identity and/or do you have any words of advice for people who struggle with that?

hi!

when i first noticed that something was going on with my sexuality, it was definitely hard to accept. i knew it was a fundamental and immutable part of me but at the same time i felt wrong and broken. even after finding out that there's a word that describes me and a community like me, this feeling remained, probably because at that point i wasn't really making an effort in immersing myself in ace community and culture. i only truly entered the ace community when i realised i was also queer in other ways and i think that was a big mistake - i should have done it sooner, and i can only recommend it, even if it's just seeking out ace content online. it definitely helps normalise being ace in your own head, especially hearing about experiences similar to yours.

i've known i was ace for about half my life at this point, and to be completely honest, i still sometimes feel some shame about it, coming out as asexual feels like revealing something personal, intimate, private, but it's nothing like it was 10 years ago. the shame is outweighed by an overwhelming love of asexuality, ace culture, the ace lens, ace community, ace pride.

i also gotta say that "fake it til you make it" has always kind of worked for me, by just telling myself that being ace is normal and good actually.

[ask-an-asexual]

@radiomogai experiences event, day 9

How and why has your identity changed over time? Are there any labels you used to identify with/as but don't anymore?

the only thing that has ever truly changed is my conceptualisation of my sexual orientation, as i was confronted with and confused by new things. terms i have previously identified with: demisexual, fraysexual, greysexual, quoisexual, bisexual (allo), caedosexual, myrsexual.