#ask policy

[guardian-of-time-if]

Do you have rules on asks?

Not officially. I won’t answer anything sexually explicit or weirdly personal. Other than that, I just be respectful in how you phrase your question. 🤷‍♀️I pretty much take asks on a case by case basis. So far, I haven't had any that have made me uncomfortable.

I do appreciate you asking Anon!

[heywriters]

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INBOX OPEN FOR WRITING QUESTIONS

and average tumblr communications such as "hey, did you know your post is on fire?" or "can you come get your mutual out of my yard? they're eating the rosebushes again."

“HEY, Writers!” Ask Policy

I do not answer research questions. Research is the responsibility of the author.

What counts as a research question?

Portrayal questions (“How do I write a character who is x?” where “x” is referring to a life experience, physical/mental condition, gender, culture, occupation, etc.)

Specialist/Non-Writing Encyclopedia questions (“Where should my character break their leg to heal within a few months?”, “What technical terms are used in designer fashion?”, “How does child support work?”, etc.)

Whether an idea is offensive/insensitive or not

Location, historical era, or other setting-specific questions

Check these blogs for answers to questions about…

ethnicity/race @writingwithcolor

fight scenes/combat @howtofightwrite

medical/injury @scriptmedic

disabilities @cripplecharacters

psychology/mental health @scriptshrink

various other research topics—The Script Family, @wordsnstuff

ASKS I MAY DELETE!

Requests for my opinion of your work or ideas.

Requests that I read, review, or edit your work

Dense asks that never get to the point.

Asks about writer’s block and self-doubt. Please check #writers block #motivation on my blog!

Non-writing questions, e.g. marketing advice.

Responses to posts—just reply/reblog with your opinion.

Certain topics I don’t discuss or have much to say about such as: Magic / occult / supernatural questions, or sexuality / sex scene / erotica questions. These often lean into "research" territory anyway.

Whiny and/or argumentative asks.

“Signal boost” or promo requests.

If I do respond to an ask that violates these guidelines, it’s simply the exception.

If I do not respond to an ask even though it doesn’t violate these guidelines,

Tumblr ate your ask.

It was time sensitive, but I didn’t have time.

You forgot to ask a question entirely—yes, this happens.

I didn’t understand it due to typos, etc.

I forgot.

Want to see if I’ve already answered or have shared info relevant to your question?

Check #answer on this blog

Use the search feature

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I am currently in the process of tag wrangling. If you see I have put tags on a reblogged post, these are usually my archive tags! Click on them for more posts on that subject. If an original post of mine has tags, many of them are just search tags to reach an audience and serve limited use on my blog.

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[fatphobiabusters]

Hi there. I really love this blog - thank you for sharing it. I would like to ask your perspective but your ask policy is not opening. Could you please reblog it when you have a moment? Many thanks xx

Hey there!

Yeah it's acting weird for me too, so I copied the link for you!

Here's our ask policy!

Hope to hear from you soon

[lierdumoa]

Okay, maybe this is just leftover rage from those years I spent working in customer service, but

It's 2022. Stop asking random strangers on the internet to answer questions that literally any search engine can answer for you in under 5 seconds.

"I need you to type out the full title of this popular tv series, because I don't know what this six letter acronym is supposed to stand for."

Are you telling me you can't type six letters into a web search?

Do you need me to wipe your ass for you too?

What the fuck is wrong with you?

But web searches don't always provide clear answers!

I'm not saying they do.

I'm saying that harassing strangers should be A LAST RESORT. Try a web search FIRST and see if it answers your question, BEFORE you start demanding answers from individuals.

Internet etiquette 101.

People can tell when you didn't even bother to try looking it up first. It's super fucking obvious.

[rougi-if]

Just a little post to clarify on what the ask policy for this blog is, because I feel like I worded things a bit strangely last time:

You are absolutely encouraged to send in asks about the game! Either about the setting or the NPC characters - I specified no nsfw asks because they aren't exactly romanceable (sorry to those hoping for some smooches!) and I don't want to mislead people. If you'd like to know what they'd be like in a relationship, you can still ask! Just bear in mind that aspect of them won't play much a part in the actual game.

[rainbowsky]

Hello, I've been spending some time on your blog now and just reading around and following links and I wanted to take a moment to say thank you for all the love you share with this fandom. You are exceedingly patient, and I appreciate that you always respond so eloquently. Even when an ask is iffy, if it's in good faith you try to deal w/ as much compassion as possible. Your posts are well thought-out and reflected upon and it's refreshing how clearly you get your point across 1

The rest of the message is under the cut.

2 I get the sense that you're a practical person and not afraid to say things as they are too. You just find a really good way of expressing your thoughts but still remaining kind. I think I appreciate you for this the most. I've spent some time off the fandom bec I was just honestly feeling anxious around feb and didn't find the courage to come back til now. I found out about a few speedbumps since then but the way you discussed them as just that, mini speedbumps  just gave me so much hope. 

3 that GGDD can and will overcome and soon leave in the past just gives me peace of mind. I tend to fixate sometimes but with your responses (the kindness and sound logic behind them) I feel like I can calm myself down from such thoughts and leave the speedbumps too. You don't sugarcoat. You're real, you're practical and say things as they are but you do it in a way that fosters an environment of positivity. I feel like there's so much hope in my heart and it's thanks to you. I apologize if 

4 this is such a long (and weird?) ask to get from a literal stranger on the internet and if so, please feel free to ignore me! But before you do, I just want to say that you gave me a feeling of lightness today (that I needed while catching up w/ the past months) that I can't repay you back for but I at least wanted to sincerely say thank you. This might not mean much from a stranger but you're very much appreciated and you just made someone's day better. So thank you!

Thanks so much, Anon. This message really makes me happy. I do my best and I’m not always up to my own standards (and I get a fair bit of hate mail), so it’s nice to hear that my overall intent is getting across to others even if I’m not always perfect.

Fandom can be surprisingly stressful. Before I ever got into this whole thing, if someone had asked me what I thought fandom was like I would have answered that I thought it was fun, creative, cheerful, maybe with a bit of bickering and competitiveness, but mostly lighthearted and positive.

Now that I’ve been into GGDD for a while (which is my first real experience with fandom), I realize that there is so much more to it than that. There is a deep emotional investment that is made, and so many issues, controversies, struggles and agonies along the way that it can often be deeply stressful and even frightening (for example, 22*7).

That’s my wheelhouse, really. I’ve had to navigate some incredibly difficult times in my life and I have become somewhat skilled at maintaining a sense of perspective even in total darkness. In this fandom that is made so much easier by virtue of the people involved. GG and DD are inherently inspiring and their love is very sweet and warm and, at times, goofy. It’s hard not to find a glimmer of joy even in the dark times.

I’m really glad you enjoy my blog, and I hope you have fun being back after your break from the fandom. 💛

[wisteria-lodge]

question: would you rather folks try to limit the number of asks they send in per person? i ask because stumbling over your blog got me into shc and i'm fascinated by your insights, and my instinct is to send thoughts now and then as they come to me; BUT i know you usually have a huge backlog to wade through already, and i don't want to add to the overwhelm or take away from other people having a chance to get answered. either way this blog has been SO helpful, thank you for running it!

(which is absolutely not a complaint about not answering asks right away to be clear, you're doing a huge service for free and i'm not bothered about being in a queue, i just want to make sure i'm not spamming you or anything)

Send in your asks! I really like reading them, even if I’m not able to answer them all. They’re neat. It’s like that feeling you get when you look at an apartment building with all the windows lit up. Little tiny peeks into all these different peoples lives.

(Also, since most people ask anonymously, there is no way I’d ever be able to institute like a three-asks-per-person policy, even I wanted to.) 

[therapy101]

hi y’all, this is your semi-regular reminder that I do not provide treatment or diagnoses through this blog. I cannot respond to messages that ask for personal advice on mental health issues. More info in my ask policy.