#assumed straight

[bloggingbisexually]

Assumed Straight

I know that my dating history does not affect my sexuality but it does affect people's perception of me. The fact that I've only dated men makes people assume I'm straight and that makes my continual coming out that much harder because I can't casually mention an ex- or current girlfriend and have them *know*, I have to actually tell them I'm bi. And it's not that I mind telling people I'm bi, I just wish that I didn't have to all the time.

[brittmstar]

Okay, seriously...

Am I the only one who sees a problem with fathers taking their female children on "a date" so they can "see how they should be treated" or people performing "wedding ceremonies" for sick little girls with older men that they look up to? I mean, I understand the importance of teaching young children, especially girls, that they need to be respected and treated correctly but there are other ways. And having fake wedding ceremonies for little girls just feeds into the idea that a woman's main purpose in life is to get married and fall in love. I mean, the whole point is that they may not get to do this "super important" thing later in life so they should have the opportunity. It's also just really creepy that these old men are pretending to be romantic with these little little girls. I'm not sure it gives off the message people intend it to give off. For the record, I also hate when people sexualized or romanticize everything a little kid does. I mean, my nephew isn't even 2 and there have been so many times, from the time he was basically a newborn, that we would go out and he would stare at the waitress and everyone would be like "oh! He's flirting!" Uhm...no...no he's not. And teaching men that staring at women amounts to flirting also isn't good. And everyone is assuming all children are straight. There are just so many problems with all of this.

[javiercintax]

Assumed Straightness

Throughout our lives, literally from babies into adulthood, it is assumed that you are/will be straight. Does any new mother meet another mother at the park and say "Oh, your son is so cute! Let's call him my son's boyfriend!"? We ask little girls about their ideal prince charming, teach kids all about how to have safe sex to avoid pregnancy, and of course, just generally ask people personal business like "So, you got a girlfriend?" Even people who might fit into straight society's stereotypical view of gay people are still assumed straight most of the time, because it's considered an insult to straight people to be assumed gay, as though being assumed straight is a compliment. It's not a compliment. I had to go through all the aforementioned bullshit, plus coming out and accepting myself, and that generally adds up to a pride in who I am. When that part of me becomes invisible, I become invisible. There are ways to combat this, such as coming out in casual conversation almost as soon as I meet someone new, but that doesn't really stop the overall problem and perpetuates the constant coming out of the closet that adds stress to everyday life.

Gay people are gay. By saying, "Oh, you don't seem gay" or "You seem too masculine to be gay", you are not complimenting me. Gay people can be masculine or feminine or somewhere in between, just like straight people. There is no one clear way to tell if someone is straight, gay, somewhere in between, or somewhere outside of it all, unless they straight up tell you, so please stop assuming. 

[themmfatale]

my geometry textbook says you should always assume 180° angles are straight. well I think that's bullshit. reblog if you think angles should be allowed to discover their own measurements and shouldn't just be assumed straight

[withthesecinderedbones]

Girl on Girl - A documentary film about struggling with the femme lesbian identity.

This looks like it could be interesting. At the very least it appeals to me as someone who often feels caught in the worlds of both 'stereotypical lesbian' behavior (my, at times extremely, short hair) and society's idea of the typical (ie heterosexual) femme woman.

Be sure to check out their website, girlongirlmovie.com, and their facebook page for more information if you're interested. They're also currently accepting donations.