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My (27m) gf (27f) has wanted to go on a break for the past 3 exam times. What can i do?

My gf and i have been dating for 4 and a half years and things have been good lately up until today. For some context shes in nursing school and im currently on a internship. She has a new term every 4 months and for the past 2 terms when she’s had a final she asked to go on a break. The first time we went on a break it wasnt really official and lasted around a week and a half and was because of intimacy issues where ours didnt really align where shes rarely into anything intimate to the point where we went without sex for 4 months but since then ive been ok without it and having it not often. The second time, last December, she was mad that i didn’t get her flowers often and she said we need to reevaluate our relationship because we want different things which lasted around 2 weeks. And now comes today which will be the third time as her finals are in 2 weeks. Today she woke up and said she scheduled herself to work 2 days at the hospital on the weekend and was tired and didnt want to work. I responded with “Ur not working -.-. And u dont even have school this week” as she hasnt had class the past 2 days and today her class got cancelled and tomorrow she was going to skip. I know this wasnt the best response in hindsight but she responded with “I cant be tired? My bad.” I didnt mean it that she cant be tired and now she says she will see me in 2 weeks. Ive since apologized but havent gotten a response back. Im not sure what to do since im pretty sure this isnt something that happens with most relationships where you go on a break whenever someone is stressed. I feel like shes looking for a reason to go on another break or something and im not sure what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated. What can i do from my position?

You can stop accepting breadcrumbs and let her know this is unacceptable behavior, and if she doesn't see it as a serious problem and isn't going to work to address it, then you're not interested in a break: you're interested in a break up. This is absolutely ridiculous behavior, especially considering the age. Is this how you want to spend your next few decades? Feeling like you're getting broken up with every time life gets hard?

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