The Things I Wish I Knew Before My 20s.
These are things I wish I knew before my 20s.
The world is not heaven. Things gonna be gone, before you know it. Spend your times more. Relationships, activities, dreams. It matters more than you think.
Relationships.
Be close to your parents and siblings. Befriend with everyone. You need more friends for starter, you’ll realize that your friends, throughout the years might become strangers, but the real one, stays. Pay attention to how they feel, see the perspective from their point of view, and discuss lots of things with them. You’ll thank me later.
Activities.
I regret things I haven’t done in ages. Ga nyoba masuk salah satu pleton di SMA, contohnya. I was just too afraid of socializing, meeting new people, taking risks. I still am, tho. So, don’t be like me and find something challenging that you love doing it.
And Break more rules. It’s fun (tapi yang terakhir ga disarankan sih).
Dreams.
When I was little, I was asked what I’m gonna be when I grew up. I said things randomly, being astronaut, policewoman, doctor, scientist, etc. What I knew then was I have no dreams. I have no idea what I want to be. These days, I wish I knew what I had dreamt of. So, I could make plans. and you should too.
Ignore those society talks.
I did said that I was so afraid of taking risks. I was afraid of socializing. I was afraid of meeting new people. and I still am. I live with people opinions. I tried to ignore, but still the talks hit on the right spot and kept me thinking ’til 3am. I tried to be the nice daughter and sister, a good student, a good friend, a loving partner, but I was just not enough for everyone. They thought I need to be more passionate. Be more than what I thought I could be. It’s just never enough. and I have never been good. I doubt myself too much. Now I don’t know how to leave this darkness.
So, please, don’t doubt yourself so much. You are the only person who knows what you capable of. You are what you think you are.
Learn that you are human and you could making mistakes.
Always remember that once you make mistakes, learn from it.
In the future, look back to your ‘oops’ moments and just laugh it off.
Tell people how you feel.
Remember that the other person isn’t a psychic. If you don’t tell them how you feel, how do they understand what you want? Just be honest with them. Let them know what you’re thinking. Life is too short, you’ll never know when you’ll have the opportunity to say the things you want to say to them later on.
If you feel like someone sets your soul on fire, say it. in a good way. If they doesn’t understand your words and keep doing it, then, set boundaries. Boundaries is important.
Being alone isn’t lonely.
It could be wonderful, you know, being alone. You should spend more time with you. Be your own bestfriend. Taking trip alone, and you’ll know a lot about yourself even more.
Learn to love yourself. It’s you vs you.
If you don’t love yourself in the first place, how did you expect people to love you?
You are unique. Say it often and stop comparing yourself to others. Just concentrate on being a better person than you were yesterday. You’ll be amaze on how you change through time.
Learn more skills.
Public speaking. Social skills. Making Video. Designing. Singing. Playing instruments. Anything. Learn more.
With more skills, you can however solve a large amount of problems, even other person’s. Your life might get easier. That is how we work in this complex and complicated society. The more skilled you become, the more enjoyable your life will be.
Feel free to add more things. I would totally appreciate it.
