#bi lyf

[starskysredlongjohns]

Think I've experinced my most gothic bi thought of "wow, i really fancy that cute girl who works in the mortuary:

[fae-neo]

I came out to a really good friend of mine tonight. It just never came up before, and then it seemed weird to bring it up, and then I got in my head about it. Don't know why I picked tonight to finally just be like, haha it's weird that I've never mentioned this before but I'm bi. I'm glad I did though! Even if I was a bit cringe afterwards.

[fae-neo]

I used to engage a lot in ‘heated discussion’ surrounding who could identify with what label, and whether some labels were better or more valid than others. But I’ve found that I save a lot of stress by calmly moving on from those posts.

Specifically, I don’t want to engage in and fuel discourse that focusses on any clashing between bi women and lesbians. My real life experience is actually that we tend to hold eachother up. And more than that, I don’t want to put energy into negative things that devolve into ‘who-can-be-the-rightest about what-this-niche-word-REALLY-means’. I want to put energy into positivity, and connection, things that actually can have a real world result of bringing people together.

If you’re sapphic, I think you’re wonderful. <3 

[fae-neo]

I’m so keen for Brisbane pride parade this Saturday. I love my community ^_^

[fae-neo]

If I could give my past self advice on coming out, I’d say: don’t

Or like, do (it’s not bad, Mum didn’t even cry), but also plan it way better. And don’t expect that just because you’re out, you’re magically going to be okay with telling your parents about your girlfriend, or the LGBT event you’re going to.

Also, explain what being pan/bi is. Your parents don’t know. 

But also: don’t even bother, it’s not that different. It didn’t change much. 

[fae-neo]

oh fuck

so my little brother just screamed out to the dinner table, “Jenna, are you bisexual?”

basically he told my whole family at the dinner table

I mean, I played it off but shit

[fae-neo]

Ok, so I have one friend who I’m not out to. One. Just because she’s a family friend, and my extended family doesn’t know.

And she just messaged me then, and I mentioned my ex. And suddenly it became the ‘avoid pronouns at all costs’ game. 

ughhghgh

[fae-neo]

I hope they’re revolting against our methods. I think it’s the duty of every generation to revolt against the older generation and to go further. My expectation is that they ought to have a higher level of consciousness than I did, because they’re standing on our shoulders

David Lourea, bisexual activist (1945–1992)