#bi phobia

[violettecandied]

“You’re in a passing straight relationship, you are the sunshine” what happened to “bi women in straight relationships aren’t any less queer. They’re still the B in LGBT”?

What happened to that?

[velvetvexations]

First feminists said, "women are just as capable as men!"

Then trans people said, "yeah! There's not that much difference between us after all!"

And a subset of "feminists" panicked and said "wait no not like that ACTUALLY the strongest woman is still NOTHING in comparison to the weakest man how DARE you try to compare us!?"

And so they split off into terfs,

Meanwhile queer activists were saying "hey the whole 'gay panic' defense is victim-blaming bullshit, the response to someone showing interest in you, OR rejecting you, should never be to get violent!"

And bi/pan people said "yeah, there's no need to be invasive let alone violent about it!"

And a subset of those queer activists said "wait wait hold on that's not what we meant YOU SHOULD have to disclose EVERYTHING about your sexuality to even be allowed to THINK lustful thoughts about someone else and if they get violent with you for leading them on it's your own fault! You were probably gonna cheat anyway, which is WORSE than murder!"

And so we got bi/pan exclusionism,

Then feminists said "sex is never owed! If you don't want to have sex with someone, you have every right not to!"

And ace people said "yeah! Even if you never want to with ANYONE!"

And a subset of those same "feminists" said "oh hold on now, you can't do THAT, there's something WRONG with you, and anyway denying a partner sex is actually SUPER abusive!"

And thus we had ace exclusionism discourse (love how we STILL downplay the bigotry of it by calling it that as if "exclusionism" isn't already too damned soft...),

And now one of the biggest and scariest feminist fights is reproductive rights and medical discrimination, feminists say "we need to restore abortion access and make birth control - including permanent methods - easier to access! Bodily autonomy is a right we can't let anyone infringe on!"

And trans men and nonbinary people with uteruses and intersex people said "yes, and we need to be careful with the language of the rules so people can't use loopholes to play 'punish the freak'!"

And a subset of those "trans-positive" "feminists" said "hold on, no we don't, what the fuck is wrong with you? Being AFAB is a PRIVILEGE and forced pregnancy is something you should be GRATEFUL for because trans women can't get pregnant at all! Sit down and shut up and cry more fragile man tears!"

It's all the same, and all these cycles later it remains amazing how fast the desire to punish some freak who dares to not know their place turns into a complete 180 on one's own values.

I'm sure we'll find an acceptable minority to punch sideways at next time.

[inc0rrectmyths]

Whoever came up with / believes in the ideology that bisexual women are supposed to end up with women and bisexual men are supposed to end up with men. I hope you rot in hell. All bisexual or biromantic men and women out there, y'all are very fucking valid if you are with a partner of the opposite sex.

[quiet-art-kid]

Mini rant

I just lost half my brain cells seeing someone use “self identified bisexuals” like how else are they supposed to identify??? Is everyone supposed to take an am i gay test??? Professionals diagnosing you with queer??? What in the dystopian fuckery do you want??

[smashing-yng-man]

[kiss-this]

I'm not even in the Heartstopper’s fandom and yet the way so called fans, whose more accurate description would be "entitled, ignorant pieces of shit", forced Kit Connor, a teenager, to come out as bisexual to literally millions of people disgusts me like I've rarely been disgusted before.

This is the clearest example of how toxic a fandom can be. Of how biphobia is a thing even inside the LGBT+ community. Of how purity culture can be dangerous. Of how cancel culture is totally fascist. Of how some people should take their labels and show them very far up their asses.

And of how some fans who masturbate at the thought of being the saviours of civil rights are actually just bullies who hide behind their screens. They keep on ruining people's lives and depriving us of the little joy that comes from being part of a fandom.

I could say I completely despise those toxic people as a bi adult woman who never outed herself to her family. But I actually despise them as a person with a conscience, some basic common sense and a brain that's not gone to shit.

BTW Må fandom has showed some degree of toxicity in the last few months (mostly on Twitter), not that there's a fandom that's immune, sadly. So if you happen to be one of those fans, please rot in hell😘

[trans-fanboy]

If their tale isn't written like a love story,

.. why struggle so much to erase them?

[bitter-exmo]

My church leader: "If anyone of you struggle with same sex attraction you can always repent"

Me then: "I don't want to be punished"

Me now: "I don't struggle with it... I'm a pro at it 😎"