The midwife-mother relationship
The midwife-mother relationship is one of the most important relationships in a woman’s journey in becoming a mother. A woman growing and bringing a human being in to this world is the utmost sacred task of all the tasks imaginable in this world. It’s not an easy task, although it may look like one at times (mostly because women are badasses who can rock everything, duh). Becoming a mother is probably the most beautiful and the most difficult thing a woman will ever do. Regardless of how her pregnancy goes, how she births and what happens when the baby is born. Becoming a mother will end a huge part of a woman’s life and start a whole new one at the same time.
A midwife is, as I’ve said multiple times before, truly with woman. It’s not just the literal meaning of the word [mid-wife], but it’s the core of a midwife’s being. A midwife is not just a birth worker who helps baby into the world, we as midwives embody the role of mother, sister and keeper of the mother all at once. Someone a mother can turn to when she first finds out she’s pregnant, or when she worries about the wellbeing of the baby. Even when she wants sexual advice or when she needs someone to rant to about the littlest of things. Us midwives will drop everything when one of ‘our’ women need us, and even though that sometimes comes at a cost (being a midwife ultimately means planning everything around new life, every day, always), it’s one of the greatest joys there is.
Being someone’s midwife means a lot of things, but it all surrounds one ultimate goal: to empower every woman, who is the only one to decide how to birth her baby. As her midwife, we should encourage and empower her to do so and to never forget she is a queen. Midwives are women’s birth advocates when they are at their most vulnerable and at their most strong, thus their relationship must be cherished at all times.
