Hello and welcome to my blog! You may be asking what this blog is for, and thankfully I have the answers to that. This is a gimmick blog (heavily inspired by @thisis-intersexism), and the premise is that you send experiences you've had with BPD sanism towards others/yourself or general negative words people have said/actions others have done surrounding BPD. Anon is on, feel free to leave an anon tag (or don't, it's up to you, really), I will be keeping a list of anon tags on this post further down.
I have multiple names I go by but you can call me Kieran Valentino (or just Valentino) 26, Simon, Convict 26, Pest 26, Asgahni (ᎠᏍᎦᏂ) 26, Inada (ᎢᎾᏓ), Dutch, or Elio. (< Preferred have 26 next to them). I use any pronouns (except for They/Them) but prefer He/Him, It/It's, Ix/Ix's, Thou/Thee, Xe/Xem, Shi/Hir, Hi/Shim, Null/Null's, and Sin/Sinner. I'm pxngender, genderfluid, transmasc, and intersex, I also use the term CTA (close to androgynous). I'm an orchid bear and present femme occasionally. I'm also a bi veldian, and I'm Aceflux + Graysexual + Grayromantic + Grayplatonic (please do not call me a friend unless I call you that first). I'll be 18 in a few months. I kin several things but some of these are Insects as a whole, the concept of sinning, the concept of gross/horrifying/freaky/gross/disgusting things, centipedes + house centipedes, vampires, priests, Pest from Regretavator, Simon/Convict from Iron Lung, Mike Schmidt from the FNAF movie, Donnie Darko, Father Charlie Mayhew from Grotesquerie, etc. As you can tell I love iron lung, I also have other interests, feel free to ask me about them. I am a Catholic! My side blog I like barely use is @e-li-o .
Fun facts about me: I am mixed (White/German and Tsalagi). I have polydactyly. I have CAH. I speak English and German, and I'm learning Spanish and Tsalagi. I have BPD (obviously) amongst other things such as DID (I as the host will be the only one posting on this blog) and possible OCD, I am physically and mentally disabled!
I have no DNI, all that I ask is that you don't bring syscourse onto this blog (I am pro-endo, but I have trauma and am occasionally triggered by syscourse), as well as obvious stuff like no racism, intersexism, homophobia, fatmisia, etc. I am a fat guy who loves my fellow fatties so that is NOT tolerated here. Feel free to ask my stances on things but I am not guaranteed to answer. PLEASE feel free to help me add id to my posts, idk what I need to id or how because I never get straight answers about it, it would be much appreciated.
Anon tags below, feel free to submit anon tags for yourself! <3
- Cypher [🦊] (aka my pookie /P)
-Anon (🐆💧)
Below are just some fun images/user boxes/etc :3
Credits;;
> verdantwyrm
> vesperthebagel
> just-another-userbox-maker
> crippy-tangerine
> you-sir-box
> webrosestar
> draconicpatches
Thank you for reading! I really appreciate everyone who checks out this blog. Have a nice day!
Telling someone with BPD that they're delusional, overreacting, or that it's "just your BPD again" is BPD sanism. Their feelings deserve to be listened to and understood like anyone elses
This post WAS in fact inspired by something that happened recently
Wh. Why have your stance on endos on a blog that has nothing to do with endos . Doesn't that defeat the purpose of making a safe space for everyone with bpd lol
Because I can and endos do nothing wrong, if you have a problem with it you don't have to interact. In my intro post I literally say no syscourse but like... Look what you're doing. I literally said nothing about "erm ackshually only pro endos can interact", all I said was that syscourse occasionally triggers me and I stated my stance on it so people would know if they have that on their dni. Because, idk, I'm a respectful human being?? I'm not "defeating the purpose of a safe space" I'm giving the option of interaction even if you aren't pro endo. I genuinely do not care if you are Endo neutral or whatever the fuck but still interact with me. All I ask is that you don't bring syscourse bs on my blog and respect my opinion enough to not shit on me for it, and if you follow those, idgaf if you interact. I think you're turning this into me saying that only specific people can interact when I literally... Never said anything of the sort. In my intro I literally said I have no dni but all I ask is no syscourse. I'm not barring anyone from this space, I simply am executing my right to set my boundaries.
How does someone get over their dislike for individuals with BPD?
We had a bad experience with an ex who had BPD, and our host has been scared ever since. We want him to get over the fear, as beings cannot control their disorders, especially personality disorders.
Again, I apologize for asking.
Hello, I've never been in this situation so I don't know if this advice will help much but I'll try my best ^^'.
My advice would just be to tell him that the stereotype that people with BPD are all bad and abusive is very untrue, there are a lot of very lovely people with BPD. A lot of people with BPD who I've met are the best people I've ever had the pleasure to talk to, same with other personality disorders. Positive resources talking about BPD, which don't demonize it and instead put a positive light on it could also help.
Don't rush into it, I think rushing and trying to force him to stop thinking that way will do more harm than good. Maybe slight exposure whenever he is comfortable with a person who has BPD would be good?? I don't know, I would feel comfortable having a basic chat or two (hello, how is your day going, hope you are well, what have you been up to, etc) as long as he remains respectful.
Want to reiterate that I've never been in this situation, so I'm not sure if any of this will actually help, but ... I tried, at least! If anyone else has advice (while remaining respectful once again) that would also be appreciated.
Hi everyone, I’m cypher you’re daily positive spreader here, I just wanted to let everyone know here that you are loved and cared for from the ones you love. And remember to take care of yourself, 🫂 :>
- 🦊 (formerly known as axo)
Thank you, beloved best friend. And please, everyone keep what pup said in mind. I know times are hard, especially right now, but you can get through this.
my sister likes to say hateful things about our abusive mother who we suspect has bpd and/or npd (i dont really want to label her as like. straight up one or the other or both since im not her or her doctor but she definitely has severe traits of both), and like i get her, both of us hate her for the trauma thats still affecting us today despite being relatively no contact with her, but i dont think calling her a "crazy bitch " and "insane", saying narcissists are the worst and never change (veryyy close to tiptoeing to saying this abt borderlines too), and in general just. loves to demonize npd in particular but i feel like some bpd demonization is mixed in w it too which is why i decided to kinda talk about it.
anyways, as someone w quiet bpd its been upsetting to hear her vent abt our mother the longer time went on and the more i understood myself and others with pd's. i literally dont want to tell her anything about what i struggle with like she finds such an issue if i relapse on alcohol once/twice when things are bad (compared to when i used to take wayyyy more befire and she knows this), doesnt really care that its better than the alternative thing to do which is sh. but if she does find out i relapsed on sh (ive been clean since last year thankfully!), she is way more sympathetic and like concerned but understanding.
idk its just. like i dont trust her with anything personal about me anymore even if we are technically close, i definitely see issues with how she treats others with the same disorders our mother had, like people are abusive because theyre shitty. whatever disorders they have/may have dont automatically make them an abuser. it just bothers me she treats me like some exception just cause im "worthy" of sympathy and understanding by being her sibling.
there are other things shes said that ick me too but those are unrelated to bpd so ill stop here 😅 sorry if this isnt exactly whats allowed on the blog im kinda new to telling whats bpd sanism and what isnt bc of the whole yknow, making sure im not evil/do bad things like everyone on the earth paints us to be at all times. which is probably another example lol its exhausting being told youre being too much or not trying enough and expected to be better about everything all the time. but that said, hope running the blog goes well! and i hope you have a good day/night wherever you are :D
This is BPD sanism. Not everyone with BPD or other personality disorders are evil, cruel people. While people with pd's can be abusive or bad people most aren't, and it's really strange that your sister is stereotyping like this.
P.s, you are doing much better with your addiction, and I'm very sorry she can't see that. Addiction is hard to recover from, I would know as someone who is trying to quit cigarettes. Recovery is not linear, relapses will happen, and that doesn't mean you aren't trying.
I hope she realizes she's hurting you and stops this behavior, anon.
