pros & cons of dating Joshua please?
Disclaimer: All of these are just based on my sometimes-biased opinions and whatever I wrote below does not, in any way, completely and correctly describes Josh.
One more thing I noticed is that these pros and cons are based on what I consider as pros and cons. Some of the pros might be cons to you guys and vice versa, so please do take this with a grain of salt and remember that this is just for entertainment.
Joshua // Hong Jisoo
Pros
Joshua is very sensitive with your emotions and is alert when you’re feeling really down. Anxious, scared, terrified–he can see through all of those and he’ll know what to do to calm you down. He loves seeing you smile (and is probably his favorite sight on earth) so he does his best to make you as happy as he can. When you’re happy, he’s happy.
He’s the type of guy who’ll definitely keep your favorites and dislikes in mind. He’ll remember them even if you just say something randomly like “I love potatoes so much” or “Round pastel balloons are so cute” while the two of you are out or something. He wants you to know that whatever you say will never fall on deaf ears and he wants you to feel as appreciated as you make him feel.
With this, he’s a really great listener. He’s the type to let you speak your mind while your hands are entwined together, and he’ll only speak when you’re done. He’ll do his best to make you feel better from anything that bothers you and at the same time make you a better person without crossing any limits (like he wouldn’t speak harshly but he’ll say the truth because he knows that it’s for the best).
He’ll also assure you that he’s always there for you on whatever you decide on, no matter if he doesn’t like your decision or not. He’s also literally the embodiment of the slightly overused quote “I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but what I’m saying is you won’t go through it alone”. He’ll be with you every step of the way because he knows you’ll be there for him too.
He will tell you deeper secrets that he almost always keeps from everyone else. He trusts you well enough to let you in, but not enough to burden you with his problems. He’s glad that he has someone he can lean on, especially since he’s part of the oldest hyung line in the group.
Culture-wise, Joshua is very open to differences as he’s been exposed to a lot. If you’re from a different culture, he’ll be more than willing to learn it for you. He won’t restrict you from anything culture-related because he understands that what is not okay to his culture may be okay to some. BUT, he’ll try to talk to you about something that really irks him in a civil manner so as to build a stronger connection and trust between the two of you.
And now that Valentines is coming up, he’ll never forget to bring you flowers and chocolates and take you out (or really do anything what you want to do if flowers and chocolates are not your thing) and probably send a rose to your mother as well.
He’s also probably the type to make anniversaries really special (and if you’d allow, month-saries) and he would most likely talk to his friends about what he can do next because he wants a new surprise every celebration.
Cons
If you’re not the type to lead, I think this might SLIGHTLY stress your relationship (but not heavily). Joshua isn’t exactly the lead in the relationship even if sometimes he can be, so you’ll have to be okay with taking the lead at times.
He might be too gentle, too, so if you’re more for an active, fun, and adventurous relationship, then I think you and Joshua might not be a bit compatible. It’s not that he’s lazy or something, it’s just that he gives me the vibe that he prefers relaxing, lazy days rather than going out to parties or spending Friday nights in noisy clubs. Road trips would be nice once in a while for him, though, especially if you’re out in the wilderness with a van. But other than that, I can’t really see him as someone who’ll be in an adventurous relationship.
Joshua tends to not speak his mind at times, hoping that his problems are going to solve themselves which may sometimes lead to much bigger problems. There are times that he might deem some problems as not important so he might not say them, and he doesn’t want to burden you with them as much as possible. You’ll have to keep on reminding him that you’re always there for him and that his problems are never a burden to you.
Please try not to snap at Joshua. Be open to him as much as possible to prevent snapping out of built-up anger. He’ll think that he’s not doing enough for you and will avoid anything that will make you snap at all costs, which might form a small tension every now and then to the point that it might collectively build up, which might cost you your relationship.
Soonyoung, Jun, and Seokmin on the way! Hope this is good enough because I haven’t been feeling good about my writing these days.