#bslfamily

[omnimuscle]

Some back story on how I was accepted into the @blackstonelabs_legion It was only a couple of days before I was in @pjbraunfitness "Cardio Q& A" Sessions. PJ was talking about everything from the Blackstonelabs brand to his normal life as everyday joe. I asked a bunch of stupid questions at least I thought so slowly but surely answered EVERY SINGLE ONE. I was more impressed by his candor and somewhat cocky, douchiness of his responses. None were mean-spirited though you would think so "dry humor" He recommended some supplements I kinda hinted that i was an ambassador for another company and after they found out that I was disabled and or Pansexual, "who knows" they dropped me, I mean I was going to leave them anyway. @pjbraunfitness responded "Just be Fucking you, Excuse my language" get your sales in or post and follow simple rules. I almost cried, of course, he didn't know, he accepted me as I am and even make fun with me about it. You to love a person (man, woman, anyone ) who can laugh at themselves and poke fun without it being hateful or spiteful. 🌈🤗🌈 This was April 22, 2019 I have been loyal ever since. The #bslfamily is BIG but close-knit and I love them all! ##bls4life @pjbraunfitness @strengthaddicts #appreciation @masterhardrocs_bodybuilding ##blackstonelabs_family #loyalty_at_its_best #cocky #cerebralpalsystrong #blackstonelabs_official #blackstonelabs_legion #excusemylanguage #pansexualpride https://www.instagram.com/p/CN_GHzJDzM9/?igshid=1nhbhya9o5x67

[omnimuscle]

To "Sir" @pjbraunfitness A person who I admire not only as a strong person but a strong leader. Who has not only accepted me but accepted me as is, without judgment or reservation 🌈🤗🌈 Who has a unique perspective of bodybuilding 💪🏋️‍♂️🦵and life in general? I have been with the legion 🗓for almost 2️⃣ years and his lightheartedness of life made some serious things easier to swallow Life is NOT that serious and poking fun at yourself helps you learn and grow. His "douchebaggery" is part of his charm, and I respect him more for overcoming his haters and rising above. the BSL Family have been nothing but supportive all around I am wishing you a HAPPY SOUL SPARK day "Sir" Braun, Don't ever change. With utmost RESPECT Roc ( OmniMuscle ) @pjbraunfitness #birthday #appreciation #douchebaggery #whysoserious #bslfamily #milestone #nohaters #respect #unique #oneofakind #blackstonelabs_official #blackstonelabs_legion (at Fargo, North Dakota) https://www.instagram.com/p/CK9nyT6D0Pn/?igshid=1x2d7vf4r60m6

[bslfamily]

Me encantaría que pudieras ver la fuerzas y la valentía que tienes para poder lograr las cosas...

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ I want to address your sexuality, first. In no way am I determining it for you as it’s not my place but it seems you're unsure as to what you really prefer judging from your confession. That’s okay because sexual preferences can change. You don’t have to be certain but it can make things easier. Are you physically, sexually, and romantically attracted to both sexes? Or are you biromantic or simply bi-curious? Labels aren't mandatory but it's important to understand yourself in order move forward with relationships, crushes, etc. 2️⃣ If you believe you are not ready to come out to your family just yet, it's probably not the best idea to impulsively do so at the hand of your first date or fling with the same sex. Not only will you most likely feel pressured into sharing something you're uncomfortable doing but you'll also feel frightened and angry for not taking certain aspects into consideration like your future for a lack of an effected outcome. 3️⃣ I think it's best you maintain a friendship and learn more about this person than jumping into dating. If you're already friends then you're one step ahead of the game. You don’t want to rush such things. At this point, you don’t have to risk coming out to your parents and if you do want to spend time with this person, you can instead call it "hanging out with a friend" than "going on a date with the same-sex.” 😏 ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ Because that's one of the many repercussions of visible self harm, you have to realize there will be a few judgmental people but since most of them are probably strangers or acquaintances, it's probable they'll mentally judge you instead of face to face considering it's none of their concern. However, not everyone who may or may not notice are like that. They don't know or understand you or your journey and never will so you shouldn't make it a priority to worry about their irrelevant thoughts. 2️⃣ About the people who do know, they probably understand, are a great source of encouragement, and most likely focus on something else other than the fact you've damaged your skin so remind yourself that sometimes others aren't always focused on your self harm tendencies but are concerned. 3️⃣ If you decide to tell your parents about your habit, I'm very glad. You can either tell them in a discussion, in a letter, or even a text, whatever you're comfortable with. Thoroughly explain to them that you've been having a rough time so you turned to self harm and you want their assistance. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ About health issues, your parents are more at risk for cancer (or other diseases) than you are seeing they're directly abusing the hazard continuously. You are more at risk for developing respiratory symptoms + infections like bronchitis or pneumonia than cancer seeing you're very often exposed. This information can be imparted to your parents when necessary. 2️⃣ Because your current approach was unsuccessful, there are others you can take: ✦ Writing A Letter: This is probably the most effective if you put your heart and soul into it. Things to add: •Although you wish they'd quit their habit, you are not demanding them to •It's their decision to quit or continue •However, it's their responsibility to keep you from harm's way as much as possible •You'd rather them smoke anywhere they choose but inside the car or house when you are around •You hope they consider your input and health as their child(ren) 3️⃣ Another approach is to ✦ Casually Give Suggestions: This does not involve elaboration, only brief input. Catch them smoking outside? Suggest the following casually - •I'd rather you smoke out here, it eliminates any respiratory problems when we're not exposed •It's safer when you smoke here than in the car where secondhand smoke is most prominent •I think you should smoke in this area more often, it's safer for our health •We should make this the only designated smoking area. 4️⃣ Perhaps one of your parents become angry, inform them you understand why they're angry but you are NOT asking for much except their consideration of your health including your siblings' and that you hope they think about it. You do not have to explain any further or do anything else except be patient for any potential changes. If they are made, thank your parents and if they are not made, continue to encourage them along with your siblings. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ 1️⃣ The head of the household has a lot of responsibilities to fulfill, duties to finish, problems to solve, etc in order to care for the family, including themselves. At times, the amount of workload can be overwhelming and stressful. Remember there are strategies and coping methods to overcome or reduce such emotions. 2️⃣ If your mother is stressed and lacks control of it, you can provide her with stress relief activities you can do with her. Try to reduce her workload, a possible stress factor, by asking if there are tasks you can help with. If she needs space or is asking for it, give her that space. It can difficult to decipher if she needs space but body language like she appears tired, sounds agitated, is in pain, etc are signs to leave her be. 3️⃣ If she doesn't express the precious indicators, you can swoop in on those times to talk with her, even for five minutes. You can even text her, if she’s busy, she'll read it when available. Even though parents can be busy, they care about you to make time for you given if it isn't enough. Loving parents are there to provide their assistance, even if they are physical and emotionally drained at times. Most of the time you don’t have to ask for it but if you do, be mindful and remember it's their job as parents to pay attention to your problems as well. ~ 🅱️

[bigsisterlita]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:* B’s GUIDANCE *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ ℹ️ As her older sister, your word matters and you can take a passive approach, use that to your advantage. If all else fails, have your parents involved as authority figures have an intimidating approach to push her on the right path. The following are approaches you can take. 1️⃣ Offer direct statements and allow her to think for herself - don’t criticize her friends but exclaim what you don't like about their actions: • “Your friends may be cool to you but they do drugs/go to jail, if you hang out with them, you could get in the same trouble.” • “If you're gonna be a follower, at least follow a more positive group of people.” • “If mom found out what you were up to, I'm sure she'd be as worried about you as I am.” • “You've lived for 15 years in a privileged family - you don't know half of the world's atrocities.” • “it's okay to act your age." 2️⃣ Write a personal letter. To see your concerns in writing like an intervention might persuade her to change her thoughts. What you can include: • The company she surrounds herself with have an impact on her attitude/actions/habits so she should choose her friends wisely for the sake of her character/future • Drugs/alcohol will damage her growing body and do not make her more superior/attractive than anyone - being with those who abuse such items could cause her to get into legal trouble as well (guilty by association) • It's her choice to continue being surrounded by those who are negative but it's her responsibility to face possible consequences • It's important to have friends beyond drugs/alcohol like friends who are adventurous, reliable, safe • Tell her what you expect of her as a sibling and what you see in her • She could make better choices if she chose to and you and your parents could help her with that • It's never too late to start fresh ~ 🅱️