I'm honestly gonna try and complain about this for the final time on here because every fandom has hypocritical members who love to twist narratives and arguments over characters they love, and at this point I'm sure everyone's just tired of me saying shit over this.
But the amount of hypocrisy Logan fans have in the gilmore girls fandom is just exhausting to go through at this point. I'm frankly tired of people acting like he was some selfless perfect boyfriend who "truly loved" Rory in comparison to Jess "desiring her" and "putting her on a pedestal".
Jess never put Rory on a pedestal. He made her face the reality of situations head-on, even when she wasn't ready to consider it (like him telling her that she doesn't seem ready for being a foreign correspondent considering how it's a rough job that takes place in very unstable situations). He was honest with a lot of things with her, even though he kept certain secrets that were only concerning him because he thought he should do so and it ended up backfiring on him. But when it came to their relationship, Jess always tried to be honest even when Rory wouldn't believe him. And he did love her. I can't for the life of me understand where this whole "Jess only desired Rory for who he thought she was" argument came from but it's complete bullshit. Jess has always known that Rory isn't a perfect person, even when they weren't as close in season 2. Him yelling at her over Yale is precisely because he knows that she has always wanted to pursue her higher education, and her suddenly giving up on her hopes and dreams isn't something she would so easily do on her own.
I also just can't with people acting like Logan somehow gave Rory her life's meaning or w/e by basically letting her do whatever she wanted with it without him intervening in her decisions. Logan cared about Rory but he also had no actual previous experience in a mutually caring supportive relationship (both romantic and platonic) that would make him understand that in a relationship, you have to actually make sure the person you're with is okay, and not just accept their sudden decisions as fine choices without further understanding why or how. Logan just not intervening with Rory's sudden slump and moving away from her mother, deciding to quit Yale and suddenly do DAR meetings with rich boring people isn't him "giving her the space to make her own decisions", it's him remaining completely passive in their relationship despite knowing that Rory loves school, she loves Yale, and she loves being a student. Oh, and him being fine with them stealing a yacht isn't romantic either, because he never actually took the time to even ask her why she suddenly wanted to commit a potential crime, or even consider what the consequences of that would be for her. We know that Logan is fine with doing it because he can allow himself that sort of thing, because his parents are wealthy and practically let him get away with anything. We also know that Lorelai is a stubbornly proud person who's not as rich or influential as Logan's parents, therefore this could lead to Rory having a permanent criminal record.
And this further just ties into how Logan's entire story is built around his privilege too. You can't even really discuss him as a character without referencing that he's rich, because that's pretty much what he is and what he remains throughout the entire series. He starts off as a rich douche who is unserious about his work, and ends as a rich douche who is fine with cheating on his soon-to-be wife with his ex. This is also why many fans just can't help but not like him or even consider him as 'problematic' because as much as his fans love to cry over this and point fingers at Jess, Logan was problematic in certain aspects. Yeah, he was supportive and sweet and generous with Rory, but he was also blatantly manipulative towards her, especially in scenes where she questions his choices, he cheated on her with multiple people while they weren't communicating (and yes, I do consider it as cheating because to Rory, they weren't broken up just because of a fight, and for Logan to shut her down and not simply apologize for his actions was incredibly disgusting). He might be aware of his privilege but he is just as unaware of the effect his actions could have on people who do not share his social status. He steals expensive ornaments from people's houses for "fun" without considering how this would lead to any maids or employed staff losing their jobs, he's completely fine with his friends bringing in a European girl who speaks no english in America and then promptly forgets about her in certain situations, he's fine with destroying public property because he knows he can easily pay people for it. Even if you were to excuse his actions and his behavior, that doesn't mean other people should just be fine with essentially watching some rich kid pulling stunts that other people irl would very likely be punished for, and see him basically get away with it because why not, he's rich.
And frankly his character "development" overall is just lackluster. You can try to ignore the revival or deem it not canon, but it further shows Logan for who he generally is in the series. He's a rich person who continually acts like a victim of circumstance yet never does anything to actually disentangle himself from his situation. On the same show where you have such a flawed character as Lorelai, decide at the age of sixteen to try and build a life of her own because she couldn't stand her parents' behavior and how their social status dictated it, Logan's story overall falls extremely flat. It falls even more flat when you were to compare it to Jess, who came from the complete opposite of a background than him, fucked up severely and faced the consequences of his own actions, and in turn chose to better himself and created a stable life and career.
It's also hypocritical how his fans love to use the excuse that Logan is "verbally abused" yet continue to ignore Jess's obvious signs of being an abused kid from an unstable home, because apparently Logan's perceived abuse excuses all his actions (at the age of 21 and then 32, no less) but Jess's actual abuse doesn't (at the age of 17 as a teenager).
