Fail
The teen moved out today, to another home he had lived in previously (but didn’t have the space for him, but does now), it’s safe and we know the mom, he has had a longer relationship with her than us. So, it’s good?
We feel horrible, just, we both have been feeling that our mental health hasn’t been great (for many, many reasons), and it made us bad hosts, it was certainly distracting both of us from our work because, starting about a year ago, things have been rough - there was no more honeymoon period, with a lot for both of us to worry about (when to intervene, how much was the risk, how to tell if something was worse than what we could tell, how much should we parent vs mentor, etc). Teenagers are difficult, especially when it’s your first real parenting experience, and they come with very-much-not-their-fault baggage.
