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A ,lot of people have best friends, but do you have any people that are more than that? Friends that you just genuinely enjoy talking to and being around?

Yes I do! Most of them have a tumblr, so I'll tag them and stuff, but yes. These people I can just talk to and I don't have to worry about what I say because they are all chill. Having people who accept who you are and having someone you know you can talk to when your day gets shitty is amazing. I don't have very many people in my life who are like this, but I have a few, and that's what matters~

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I bet you that I can

i am sorry for doubting you. let it be known that caabaaret has the insane magical ability to ask me things. a field where most people find themselves inept.

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caabaaret asked stfu-moffat:

I think that the reason most men don't change their surname is because it hasn't been presented to them as an option. However, just because a woman decides to change her name does not mean it was patriarchy that made her do it. In my case for example, I plan on changing my name because it is connected to my family that abused me from the time I was born. If I marry into a name or legally change it, it's not the patriarchy that made me do it.

I agree, I think most men don't see it as an option at all. I've seen a lot of women say that they changed their surname to stop sharing a name with an abuser, but I've never seen any men say they changed/would like to change their surname when they get married for that reason. I definitely don't think that the patriarchy is making you do it, but it's presenting it as a viable option (and adds a lot of pressure for women to change their surnames, even though that may not be why you want to change your name), which is an option men don't feel they have (which is bad, because sharing a name with an abuser can be very difficult to cope with). I wish people had more options to feel they could keep or change their name, depending on what's best for them, but at the moment there's a lot of pressure on women to change their surnames and it doesn't seem to register as a possibility for men.

(I know one man who changed his surname so he wouldn't share a name with the father who abandoned him, but he changed it by deed poll when he turned 16 - he didn't wait to get married. So my theory is that men don't associate marriage with the possibility of changing their surnames anyway, and they have more pressure to keep the surname throughout their life, but there might also be other patriarchal expectations influencing lots of men, like the idea that they should "carry on the family line" and pass on their surname, even if they hate it.)

Anyway, I hope the expectations around surnames change, because it's unfair to everyone.

- C

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You guys should totally go follow caabaret because she's like the best person in the entire world and she would never ever take my phone and promoherdelf on my blog

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I was tagged by slow-conversations-with-a-guun

Rules: 

Rule 1: always post the rules Rule 2: answer the questions the person who tagged you asked and make 10 new ones Rule 3: tag 10 new people and link them Rule 4: let them know you’ve tagged them

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Questions:

What was your favorite memory? Pretty much anytime I've hung out with friends. What can I say? I love those wonderful peoples.

What do you consider home? I'm my own home. I'll feel content anywhere I go as long as I'm still me.

Do you have siblings? Yes. A little sister, an older brother, and an older half-sister. 

Would you be an airbender, waterbender, earthbender, or a firebender? Firebender for sure.

Pancakes or waffles? I'm a waffle man.

Have you ever told someone that they were your crush? Yes. 

What would your perfect night consist of? Music, the outdoors, and someone to chat with.

What 3 things would you take with you to a deserted island? Solar powered generator, machete, and a radio.

How often do you clean your room? I kick everything under my bed every month or so.

Are you happy? I'm alright.

I'll be asking the questions now.

Fav band or musician?

Do you play a sport?

Plan an instrument?

What do you really want right now?

What pajamas do you wear if any?

Favorite book?

Favorite movie?

Can you lick your elbow?

Did you know that I love you? 

Favorite video game?