#calming technique

[sleepicore]

Take a deep breath

[aftg-random-fun]

Andrew looked up from his book to check on Neil on the couch. Neil had been unusually quiet while watching the exy game on tv. Neil was spaced out tracing his fingers on his arm bands in figure eights and circles.

“Yes or no?” Andrew asked as he bookmarked his page and stood up. Neil blinked as he came back to reality. “Yes or no?” Andrew repeated once Neil was focused on him.

“Yes.” Neil said as Andrew nodded to himself as he ducked into their room. Neil stayed on the couch waiting to see what Andrew would grab. When Andrew came back out he had the box with coloring supplies. “What are you going to do with those?” Neil asked with a tilt of his head.

Andrew opened up the case revealing the markers. “You’re tracing the scars again. I thought maybe coloring them might relieve some tension. These markers are water based so they’ll wash off.” Andrew explained as he drew a squiggle on his knuckle. “So, yes or no?”

Neil hummed and tilted his head as he looked at the markers. “Okay, yes, let’s try it out.” Neil decided with a nod and began rolling down one of the arm bands. He put the arm band on the coffee table. He plopped his bare arm between Andrew and him. “Is there a grey?”

“You and your grey!” Andrew rolled his eyes as he handed Neil the grey marker he already had ready. “Do you want any particular design?”

“Paw prints?” Neil suggested as he opened his marker and began making tracks. Andrew pulled out an orange and followed Neil’s lead. By the time the exy game was almost finished Neil’s arm looked like he had tiny creatures running around his body.

“Do you feel less tense?” Andrew asked as he captured his marker.

Neil smiled. “Yes, I hadn’t even realized.” He traced one set that Andrew had colored. Neil glanced at the tv. “Are you kidding me?! How could you miss that!” Neil said to the tv as the losing team made a spectacular fumble.

Andrew smirked as his Junkie returned to his normal self. Andrew moved the marker case to the coffee table and curled up next to Neil enjoying the restoration of life in his eyes.

Fin~

[wildshadowtamer]

Five, Four, Three, Two, One

So, this post was inspired by @aimasup‘s recent comic page, where this technique was used. I included my five top fandoms (that i’m in) with their different reasons as to using the technique. They went through all the previous steps beforehand, just so we’re clear.

So, here you go:

An Anxiety Calming Technique With Multiple Characters/Fandoms!

Patton, Sanders Sides: (Phobia of Spiders) "Five things you can see" Roman whispered, holding the sobbing Patton in his arms, the smaller side gasped raggedly and opened his eyes. "...Y-you.." Patton began, Roman nodded along "...the f-floor..." Roman rubbed circles into his back slowly  "....my jacket..." Patton leaned against Roman even heavier, slowly steadying his breathing "....v-Virgil's....window?" He murmured, not remembering what had happened "....and...." Patton pushed away from Roman slowly, taking in his surroundings "....my family." He shakily breathed a laugh and hugged the four figures in front of him, now calmed enough to go home.

Ben DROWNED, Creepypasta: (Phobia of Water) "Four things you can touch." Toby told the shaking boy, holding him by the shoulders "...um...g-grass?" Ben began, not daring to break eye contact with Toby "....a tree." he took a breath, closing his eyes before continuing "....you." Toby nodded slowly "...and...smile dog?" Ben looked down at the black, and red dog curled up next to him, giving a relieved but happy smile.

(Human) Perry The Platypus, Phineas and Ferb: (Near Death Experience) "Perry, tell me three things you can hear," Heinz spoke up to the teal-haired man clinging to his side on the old couch. "...birds" Perry signed slowly, as if he was muttering "...the city" he continued after several seconds of silence "and?" Heinz whispered, "...you." Perry smiled.

Sebastian, Stardew Valley: (Sensory Overload) "Seb? Give me two things you can smell." Sam encouraged his boyfriend, who was hiding in the backroom of Gus' Sebastian breathed in, holding his lover's hand "...cigarette smoke." He started, glancing around "...pizza." Sam smiled "and...is that sashimi?" he finished, looking back down the corridor to where the farmer was standing, a plate of sashimi in hand.

Sans, Undertale: (Nightmare) "Alright, you're doing great. Lastly, name me one thing you can taste." Papyrus smiled, keeping a hand on his fragile brother "....t-taste? uh..." Sans stopped, shrugging "...ketchup?" He murmured "great job; you did great." his brother encouraged, finally bringing him down from the nightmare-induced panic attack.

[mental-health-advice]

I'm 23 years old without a driver's permit; I'm extremely embarrassed to admit it. The reason for this is due to anxiety.. Being in any vehicle stresses me out. Everyone around me believes I'll be a good driver but I can't overcome my anxieties towards driving.. Lately its become a huge problem and I feel like its putting strain on my relationships to the people closest to me. I know that I need to get my permit and license but I'm terrified. I don't want to be a burden on my loved ones anymore.

Hello! Thank you for sending this in, and I’m so sorry you’re feeling conflicted and anxious. I completely understand how you are feeling and the situation you are in.

The first thing which you could look into is different techniques to use. Whether you are trying to keep the feeling of anxiety away for a while or struggling with panic attacks, looking into techniques to use and practise can really help and give us a way of fighting back. Something which I use is calming audio or music I enjoy when I feel anxious. This helps me relax and take my mind off the situation and gives me a positive feeling. Do you feel you could look into some techniques?

On our tumblr we have a page dedicated to calming techniques, which I encourage you to have a look at. Perhaps pick a few, try them out and see which one fits. It is okay if you feel some are not working, as we are all different and finding the right technique can take a little time but is definitely worth it. I will link you below!

Calming Anxiety and Panic

I believe that taking your time with these techniques is crucial, as well as anything which you feel you are struggling with. Blocking everyone else out for a few moments, do you feel ready to learn to drive? Do you feel you would have the time, motivation and money for it? Are you ready to take that small step? It is okay if the answer is yes, and it is also okay if the answer is no. This is a good place to start and really understand how you feel about it.

If the answer is no, do you feel you could speak to your loved ones about how you are feeling? If they understand your situation then they may be able to help out by offering you lifts or car shares (which is good for the environment and offers a social activity!). I understand you may feel negative about having to rely on others driving or ask for lifts, but it is okay to not want to drive. It is becoming more and more common for people to choose not to drive, or feel they cannot. Public transport is only improving and is definitely something in which you could look into. You can find timetables online, or at local information centres.

I really believe speaking to your loved ones will help the feeling of negativity reduce for you. Not wanting to drive is okay, and society must realise that it is okay too. You are not a burden for not driving.

If the answer is yes, then there are a few options for you to look into. There are driving instructors who have experience with nervous and anxious drivers. They are understanding and may have a different teaching approach to make it comfortable for you. You can look into instructors in your area via Google, or even Facebook and compare those which you find. When I was looking, I wrote down the options and compared prices, availability and the feedback from previous customers. Do you feel you could have a look at a few driving instructors?

When you get to your lessons or test, it is important to take your own time and not to rush anything. Using calming techniques during your lessons and test could perhaps benefit, and if your instructor knows your situation they may build these into the lessons. Taking your time is crucial, and it really helps me with driving and everyday experiences. It is okay to take time, and it is okay to need to pull over and stop for a moment to regroup your thoughts.

Doing the lessons and test in your own time is also important. If you feel you can only drive for an hour, that is okay. If you feel you could do 2 hours at a time, that is also okay. Speaking to your instructor can open up doors and ideas on how to learn in the best way for yourself. They could also recommend schedules for lessons or how they feel you will perform best. When it comes to knowing if you are ready to take the test, you must believe in yourself and ask yourself if you feel you can do it. Your driving instructor will know if you are technically, but it is up to you to take a deep breath and know if you are ready. It is okay if you need a little more time or just need a quick recap lesson.

I really do understand how you feel, as I have been through it too. I am around a year younger than you are and have only just passed my test. I was in a situation when I was 17 where driving made me feel anxious and it reminded me of things I didn’t want to associate with driving. I struggled to get lifts without getting comments about ‘you could have driven if you had learnt’ which made me feel awful. Unfortunately, not everyone understands that such a ‘normal’ thing in society is sometimes difficult for others to do.

I stopped my lessons altogether and focused on my education, although it was difficult throughout with catching public transport (I live in a small town with terrible bus links to the station) and getting to work. But, I do not regret this. I wasn’t prepared in my mind to drive and I wasn’t in the best of places. I eventually built up the courage to book some lessons again a few months ago and I felt so nervous to take that little leap into driving again. The second time around, I was much more focused and motivated. I still had my doubts and lessons which I couldn’t focus, but my instructor knew that and we really worked well to work on the parts I needed to work on instead of ticking boxes.

I passed my test third time, and that is okay. The whole process can be complicated with our emotions, but I learnt that it is okay to feel. Our emotions are valid, and we can overcome them with time.

I really hope this has opened up some thoughts for you, and you are able to choose a path which is right for you at this moment. I believe in you, whatever your decision may be.

Rosie

[sanders-sides-safety-squad]

Calm down child! Use the 4-7-8 breathing technique!

Breathe in for four seconds,

hold for seven seconds,

breathe out for eight seconds.

This actually did help me at school once; so I’m reiterating it here for people who don’t know/dont remember. It really, really does help. <3

~Admin Maxx

[demigender-positivity]

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Helper Alex- 

Just breathe. Since you can’t really breathe through your nose, just take deep and measured breaths through your mouth. None of that short and huffy breath crap, deep and slow but don’t try to do it too full capacity, you’ll end up making yourself light-headed. (I have anxiety and this is the only thing that keeps me from having a panic attack sometimes.)

[sleepicore]

.🌙🔵🌙. Sleep breathing exercise with music

[gentlemanscocktail]

This helped me to chill when I usually would have flipped the hell out at someone. I’ve been much happier sense. Not claiming it will work for everyone, but I’d recommend giving it a try.