#cheating dad

[decayingkitty]

[decayingkitty]

Still being able to say "my dad did this for me" or "my dad bought me this", is a blessing for me to still have him in my life even if he keeps leaving, atleast he comes back right?

Wonder when hes going to leave again.

It's okay I mog that woman hes seeing behind my moms back.

[ichangedmyusernameandthiswasopen]

I will forever find it funny that me yelling at my dad about Mondays inevitably lead to my dad admitting that he had been cheating on my mom for a long time 🤪

[lemons-2-limes]

Cheating parent.

I usually don’t fully expose my personal life like this, but I just found out that my dad cheated on my mom when she got out of the hospital and was still recovering about 2 years ago. She confronted him and he completely denied her claims, and told her to basically get out of his sight. I really don’t know what to do, like I want to believe that my dad would never hurt my mom like that, but I know that he would leave that house for hours at a time in the middle of the night and claim he was at the store despite not getting anything at the “store”. 

I would like some advice from anyone who has been in this situation before because I don’t know how to feel anymore about this.

[ellsietalks-blog]

My Father

On days like today, I look at my family and see only a facade.

A mother, completely ruined by years of fighting to keep her family together but still trying to show her family all the love she can, even as she resorts to fighting back. A father, psychologically damaged and never showing love to anybody unless he's forced. Child #2 with untold anger issues from being the victim of a broken house.

And then there's me. Anxiety, depression, a fear of men who are stronger than I am, and constantly fighting with my parents until I break down.

But those are not the problems I need to address in this post.

Imagine being a young teenage Ellsie, and your dad has given you his old MacBook. He has wiped most of his old data off of it but left it hooked up to his Hotmail inbox because he's used to you clearing out his unwanted emails.

This is what my dad did in February.

I thought it was all fun and games, I would transfer over all my pictures from my phone and download all of the tv shows I wanted to. And like I said, I always kept his inbox clean.

This was a very symbiotic relationship until this morning.

Like a normal teen, I turned on my Netflix and put on an episode of Dexter, before pulling up the email app to get rid of all of the junk mail in dad's inbox.

And right there, in the first email slot, it said 'You have a new admirer, check her out to see if you're interested!'

My father, a married man of 40, is trying to cheat on my mother, a sweet, beautiful woman of age 37, by using a dating site. He is not perfect, I know that, but the panic I felt when I saw the email was immediate. My heart broke, and it is not even me who might be being cheated on.

To make matters worse, one of his encounters with a person from the site involved him and my friend. This friend is 15, and she should not be anywhere near my father.

Now every email for a potential affair comes through my computer, and it horrifies me.

I will not tell my mom.

I cannot tell my mom.

I refuse to break my mom's heart.

These have been my mantra for the whole day. My mother is a sweet, loyal woman who has been nothing but good to my father. She has stayed with him through all of the shit he's pulled and intends to stay with him for her whole life.

That is what makes this whole thing even more concerning. She has been with my father for twenty years as of August 11th. Tomorrow. Twenty years...

I will not ruin this marriage.

...but I cannot help but feeling like I should tell somebody I know. somebody who could help. I don't like the feeling of trying to bury my dad's secret in order to protect my family.

My only job now is to keep this secret hidden away from people I know in reality.

-Ellsie 8/10/16

[aimadakrya]

Tomorrow is my dad's birthday...

And he's planning to propose to the woman he destroyed my parents' marriage with. They went away for a long weekend to visit his family in Arizona. I keep playing scenarios over and over in my head as to how he'll do it. Then I play out fulfilling the promise I made to my mom that I would tell her when he does it. I hate that she made me promise her that. It's going to kill her. This is the most painful new year I've had to endure so far. I feel like a child again.

[oracaleangellia]