Divorce is often times necessary in bad marriages and in the long run can be beneficial to the mental health of yourself and your family if it is repaired correctly. Parents often ask me how to tell if their divorce is hurting their child or their relationship with their child. Here are some signs that your child or teen is hurting and needs some support: Irritability, anger outbursts, behavioral problems, school refusal, sad, tearful, sleeping problems or insomnia, nightmares, increased arguments with siblings, decreased academic performance, confusion, difficulty with peers, social isolation, drug use, feelings of guilt, feelings of betrayal, less talkative, not engaging in normal activities, and many others. Reaction to divorce does not look the same for all children. It is important for parents to remember that children most often times blame themselves for their parents divorce. It’s important to check in with your child and understand what the divorce is like from their eyes. How is your child feeling? Do you know? Are they exhibiting any of these signs?