Well meaning advices over the years told me not to be too showy because I would be under the limelight, blinded by the spotlight and I won’t be able to see “the enemy” who remains in the dark. People are malicious and will bring me down, I was told. I was told I was too naive and too trusting so I am fair game to conmen out there. I exposed too much too soon, apparently. Over the years, I’ve had my share of experiences where I suffered from betrayal, cheating, a lot of pain and still I choose to trust in people. With each experience, I grew firmer, longer roots, I became more grounded. Come what may, I know better now. I am less reactive now. If they continue to run their mouth, it’s their mouth, it’s their free will. I just don’t associate with them that much or at all. Especially when they are “family” or relatives, I learned to be stoic and calm in the face of the storm and for once the guilt tripping didn’t work and they “lost” the power over my heart. When I don’t feel bad for making that choice, they knew that I am no longer under their control. No more emotional blackmail. No more guilty conscience. No more manipulation. I don’t blame them. I am not a victim. They didn’t know any better. I know better so I choose to remain firmly grounded. The Chinese proverb literally translates to; Big Tree Attracts Wind. We can’t stop the “wind”, the only way is to go deeper, grow stronger roots and be so still and firm in your own core being that no matter how strong the wind, you will never falter, you will never fall. Reflection for the day. 🥰🙏🏻 #reflection #chinesephilosophy #philosophy #easternphilosophy #chinese #ego #egos #ground #grounding #foundation https://www.instagram.com/p/CeNQfLkFxuL/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=