Slightly related but mostly tangential to the he or she post I find it that cis folks tend to make a really big deal out of the very mean trannies throwing tantrums when they 'misgender them on accident' or slip up even a little but they wildly underestimate how much shit we actually let slide on the daily. Are there "mean" trans people who don't take shit yeah there are and they have my full support they shouldn't have to put up with constant bullshit even when it's from Well-Meaning people. But on average? Chances are that most trans people they're talking to are ignoring most of the microaggressions 24/7 and keeping their mouths shut when people mess up their pronouns (again) or say that men cant get pregnant or the infamous 'welcome to womanhood lol now you know how it is' or casually ignore the existence of people outside the gender binary (again) and don't comment on any of it and just let everything slide for the sake of keeping civility because they don't want to go through the trouble of correcting the person they're talking to or come across as rude and then. Whatever. You get it. Trans people are being way more patient on the average than cis Allies (TM) give them credit for and in the rare occasions they dare to draw a line and call someone out on their casual displays of transphobia then suddenly they are being too angry and unreasonable and why won't you let this one slide :( i'm trying my best yknow? this ally thing is sooooo hard you should extend more grace towards us you are making a mountain out of a molehill and it just drives me nuts everytimeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
This is also related to how a low of cis folks will do the most half-assed attempts at allyship and not put in any of the actual work and then expect us to just bow in gratitude and not call them out on all the other shit they're still doing just on the grounds that they are giving us the bare minimum so it'd be rude and inconsiderate to complain. "Inconsiderate." I think so-called allies need to start taking TRANS PEOPLE'S feelings into consideration more actually. You are getting away with too much. If you cannot stand a trans person being frustrated with you because your ~good intentions~ do not translate into actual actions or accept that they don't own you infinite patience then you cannot call yourself a good ally sorry. Be normal about angry trans people! We have more than enough reason to be.
