Hey Bloo.. (Talking about Jolie) I'll be fine Everything leaves everything stays as it is..But recently.. I'm been getting picked on for my size. I'm a size16 in dresses.. people sayi'm oo fat for them.. but i'm built like my great grandmother or Mutie as i say.. i'm also one in the family with a Bust. people cat call me and try to snag me from my twin sister.. it'sbeen a rough year for me..
Hmm *scratches nose* I can’t relate on a personal level (I mean, I’m almost 30 lol I don’t have my girlish figure anymore but I’m in decent shape and always have been), but I’ve gone through my fair share of shit in life, and if it’s taught me anything, it’s that when it comes to personal problems, you gotta either change it or fuckin’ own it if you want people to shut up. Even then there’s gonna be plenty of people to ignore because you don’t fit into their version of a perfect world and that bothers them or makes them feel they have the right to criticize you (or lay hands, eyes, or opinions on you). Then there’s the ones that think they’re doing you some sort of favor by objectifying you...
Opinions are like assholes, kid, everyone’s got one.
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and that sucks and my heart goes out to you, but people are kinda terrible and if you don’t make a mental or physical change, next year’s not going to be any different.
So, I’m not gonna go and try and tell people to ‘just lose the weight‘ because that’s stupid and a personal choice on your part, and hey if you’re happy with your bod then you do you, kid, I ain’t gonna judge.
That said, have you considered adopting the Murder Walk? 110% recommend for every woman or petite people in general. I mean, I’m not petite in the least but this is how I walk approximately 100% of the time when I’m just out and about and lemme tell you nobody gives me shit XD I’ve been unconsciously walking that way since I was real young because it’s how my mom has always walked too, and lemme tell yah people hop right the fuck up out of the way if you walk head up, shoulders back, and with a purposeful stride.
Assholes are always looking to take advantage of a woman (or anyone really) who moves like prey. So don’t be prey, even if you are afraid, you don’t show it. If someone lays a hand on you without your permission you do not ask them to let go, you pull away and you tell them to let go. If they keep it up you start shouting. I won’t tell you to start inflicting bodily harm for legal reasons, lol, but I will say that I carry a 36″ telescoping nightstick in my purse because I don’t fuck around with that kind of bullshit.
I am worth keeping myself safe, and I am entitled to my bodily autonomy. So are you. The kind of jackass that catcalls or tries to touch you without permission is not worth your time or your attention. They are dirt. Just remind yourself of that fact when their words start to sting; ignore them until it becomes second nature and you’ll find the world is a lot easier to move through because you’ll have come to really understand that the opinion of some random asshole means nothing at all.
It’s not easy, but it’s doable. I wish you luck in the coming year and hope, if nothing else, that you run into fewer assholes than you did in 2017.
And remember to practice your murder walk.
