#compulsoryheterosexuality

[louis-t-91]

i hate telling non les people abt comphet because i just know they won’t believe me when i say i’m lesbian or they’ll think i’m confused 😐

[questioninglesbianjournal]

Obvious signs that you are a lesbian that you missed:

Hey guys I want to open this up for people to share this and reply or submit a sign you might be a lesbian or a realization about the past that was an obvious sign. It could be funny ones too. I’ve been seeing some around and they are really eye opening. They really got me thinking about what I am in denial about.

I’ll start and add some that I have seen or in denial about:

1. You have taken an ‘Am I Gay Quiz”

2. You search through hashtags #wlw #saphic

3. You wanted a really close female best friend when you were younger/ now.

4. Dating a guy was scary

5. You thought you would just wait until marriage to have sex and it wasn’t a big deal.

6. You chose what guy to have a crush on.

Continue this and share please! I want to hear your stories maybe we can relate !

[hear--me-raw]

This pride month was a lot more stressful than I thought it was going to be. Crimes towards LGBTQIA+ individuals were at an all time high and have been rising since Trump came into power. Mad people especially in the black community talking about a gay agenda you would think after being oppressed for so long that we wouldn't want to oppress others but the spirit of the colonizer is alive in many of us still. It is in our politics, it is in our religions and it is in our spirituality and it's never been more apparent to me as my journey of self discovery landed me here as a bisexual non-binary human. At the end of the day I am human a magical fucking human and as @janellemonae says "I am in experience" I have been blessed to have met some beautiful souls that have made me feel safe enough to express myself and that have loved me unconditionally throughout these changes. Arguing with people online was really messing with my mental health so I stopped and spent some time in LGBTQIA+ TikTok and just saw all the people being brave enough to be their full selves knowing that it may come with losses. Until we are all free none of us are free because we are connected. Do you research and be mindful before you spew hatred about this community because there are still so many people in the closet afraid that their loved ones will stop loving them. So many people living in fear hiding themselves. That's no way to live🙏🏾 #bisexual #pride #lgbtqia #dress #genderqueer #genderfluid #trans #nonbinary #comphet #compulsoryheterosexuality #freedom #pridemonth (at Boston, Massachusetts) https://www.instagram.com/p/CQw6RUSJrf6/?utm_medium=tumblr

[questioninglesbianjournal]

Omg I just found the old Asks I sent to a bunch of lesbian tumblrs 2 years after I realized I liked girls in high school. Please read if you want to laugh at a girl in denial 😂😭:

“If im sexually turned on by girls and only girls am i gay? When i masturbate I can only think of girls. I never had a boyfriend or kissed 1. I was obsessed with guys in middle school. Every now and then ill see a guy and say o hes good looking. But when i see a girl my heart starts pumping. When i see a hot guy im like wow. when i see a hot girl my mind races my heart beats and my vagina starts contracting. ill stare at her boobs, vagina or butt. Penis disgusts me. I have no desire to touch it. But i wonder if its just cos im young. Im 16. Ive been feeling this way for almost 2 years. I nver think about finding the perfect guy and get married like my other friends do. I also have a desire to grab my best friend’s ass. But i dnt feel emotionally attatched to her or girls either. Do you think its a phase. Do you think im gay? Is it obvious nd I just cnt admit it. Im so confused. Am i too young to know? Thanksss alot :)”.

That’s SOOOO GAY! 😭😭but I was still not sure and I still am not that sure because I don’t really want to have sex with a girl. Prob because it’s just unfamiliar. But I do want to touch a girl! I just wanted someone to tell me I’m gay. And a bunch did 😂

I got so many replies telling me yes I am prob gay or I’ll figure out with time. I found this anon I got which is so nice but funny:

“ um, I saw your ask on a lesbian tumblr about maybe being a lesbian. I hope this isn't offensive, but they didn't really answer your question, and I really wish someone would have told me this when I was your age, so here it goes, YES, you are probably a lesbian. If not a lesbian, bi or pansexual.”

Another response:

“......Sure, the signs all point to 'homo'... but it's up to you to decide.”

Thanks to the entire lesbian/ WLW tumblr community from 2012-14!!! And even now! I have prob sent you a all very frantic message about being confused! Lmao

[all-about-thoughts]

SHIT

why do i feel uncomfy when i think abt the possibility of kissing a specific guy?

 do i liked it or i’m just forcing bc of comphet?

(like maybe his lips got me attention but just this? aaaaa)

[all-about-thoughts]

Lesbians,queer, bi sapphic ,wlw heeeeeeeelp

Ok have you ever through this questioning your sexuality about men and woman, let me be clear. Sometimes I still get confuse if I found that male person handsome, attractive or if I'll go beyond than admiration.

This happens naturally when I try to imagine whatever type of the touch between me and man especifically if is sexual i automatically turn my face away doesn't seem right or it's not for me. I can find him cute but i never (that i remember) felt sexually attracted by a man or feel embarrassing bc i liked a sexy or whatever demonstration from them. BUT DAMN with woman ...i don't have to explain like i feel the shivers or feel embarrassing but bc deeply i liked that kind of contact. I'm fuckin gay or i should give men a chance?(i fucking don't wanna it)

[questioninglesbianjournal]

Omg I hate myself! idk what’s wrong with me. Idk if I am not meant to have a relationship.

I feel like I don’t crave a relationship or sex as much as other people around me.

I know I get turned on by girls and never by guys. That’s the only thing I know.

I lose interest in potential relationships so quickly.

With guys it’s always after a few days or maybe 2 weeks then I’m over it.

Now that I have been talking to a girl i was sooo into it in the beginning, now 6 weeks in Im so over it. Idk why! Now I want to get back on apps to try to talk to someone. A girl or a guy to try and figure things out. Is it everyone else is it me? Or maybe it’s bec I don’t like men and this girl just isn’t for me. It’s the first girl I have really talked to so I still don’t know if I could feel a connection for someone else maybe.

It’s like I don’t want a relationship but I love talking to new people. Once that new feeling is gone I get so over it. Maybe I am just not good with dating apps?

I’ve never been in a relationship and the only thing I have ever wanted from a relationship was to have a special friend that I can hang out with a lot, talk throughout the day and cuddle with! Sex or kisses were never in the picture.

Even in high school I would say that’s what I wanted and I would say I wanted a close girl best friend. Sooo idk if that’s what I still need or do I just want a girlfriend !?!

[questioninglesbianjournal]

Before I was actively questioning my sexuality I would say:

“ Guys only become cute to me once I get to know them. Once we connect and I see how nice and funny they are then they become good looking and then I have a crush on them.”

I have always been in spaces with limited guys just bec of the activites I enjoy and my major. So whenever there was a guy I would tell myself okay get to know him so you can like him and maybe you guys can date. I would plot my attraction for guys the day I saw them.

I also think every guy my friends decide to date are wayy less attractive than them so I just assumed it was bec I didn’t know their personality. That’s why they don’t look attractive to me. Lmao

When I see actors that everyone thinks are hot. I don’t find them attractive untill I see a movie that I really like with them in it or watch an interview or something that shows them. Then I’m like wow he’s so attractive.

But with girls I can think they are attractive just at face value. Superficial things. Just bec I find them beautiful.

Soo is this a lesbian thing ?😭

My reason for a wanting a boyfriend used to be for the validation. I knew that the only reason I wanted a boyfriend was so he could say I was pretty . Then as I started to realize I liked girls I wanted a boyfriend so badly to prove to myself I was straight. So that’s why I always plotted and searched for any guy who I could date.