#contrarigender

[xeno-aligned]

Contrarigender / Oppogender / Divergender / Discrepantgender

When you feel / are two (or more) contradicting or generally `opposite’ genders at the same time, such as being simultaneously completely gender-null and another gender.

See also: Genderkrieg.

Coined by unknown; flag by me.

The two sides to the flag represent each contradicting gender; as ‘warm’ colours contrast with ‘cold’ colours. The black stripe represents the contradiction between your genders.

[bigendering]

what if I'm bigender of boy and antiboy?

That’s possible! There’s actually a word for that - if you’re fluid between them, that’s called cendgender. If you experience them at the same time, that’s called contrarigender, oppogender, divergender, or discrepantgender.

Kai

[ask-pride-color-schemes]

I am afab, and I definitely feel like my gender is female but I don't think I'm cis. I feel dysphoria like I'm supposed to have an amab body yet I want to present as a female. What is this?

Please don’t use expressions such as “AMAB body” when you are not talking about yours (or citing someone), since assignment doesn’t necessarily correlate specific bodies. The idea that sex/gender assignment equals anatomy erases both people who transition physically and intersex people. AGAB language exists for descriptive reasons, not as a thinly veiled “politically correct” way to say “biological female” or “biological male”.

That said, I think that it’s possible that you either:

Take into account a “male coded” appearance into your gender: you want to use “female coded” clothing but you also want to see yourself as partly male or masculine;

Are at least partially female and want to have a “female coded” presentation, but want to be seen as a nonbinary/genderqueer/gender non-conforming person without changing your wardrobe, and changing your physical appearance could accomplish that;

Have some kind of issue that may translate into something similar to gender dysphoria, even if you identify with your assigned gender.

As for what labels you could possibly use, well... it’s hard to know from this description, but here are some:

Ambigender: “A feeling of two genders simultaneously, without fluidity/shifting. May be used synonymously, in some cases, with bigender.”

Genderfuck: “Some nonbinary people may choose or need to present a 'clashing' combination of gender cues that are incongruous, challenging or shocking to those who expect others to fit the gender binary. For example, combining a beard with makeup and a padded bra. This practice of transgressively breaking the rules of gender presentation is known as genderfuck, genderfucking or sometimes genderpunk.”

Lamingender: “A polygender identity that feels layered, or as if it is composed of distinct slices.“Midgender: “A gender that exists in the middle between the binary genders of female and male, and may be a mix of both."Offgender: “A gender that closely represents/is most closely represented by another gender, but is not that gender. Can be likened to what the color off-white is to white for descriptive purposes."Schrodigender or Schrodingender: “1) A gender which you can both feel and not feel.2) A single gender that exists as if it were many genders at once.”Skoliogender: “A gender which is almost recognizable, but is just slightly off; a gender which approaches a recognizable gender, before sharply veering off."Transbodied: “A term to describe being at the weird and difficult intersection between gender, sex, spiritual identity, and mental illness (sensory disorder, BIID, dissociation, etc.), while understanding that your mind and body don't match up in some way that is not straightforwardly related to gender dysphoria, wistphoria, or transition."Commogender: “1) When you know you aren't cis, but you settle with boy or girl for the time being.2) A feeling that one is definitely not cis, but is unable to define what their gender is due to mental exhaustion. May be used as commoboy/commogirl if the person identifies with a binary gender for convenience.“Contrarigender, Oppogender, Divergender or Discrepantgender: “When you feel/are two (or more) contradicting or generally `opposite' genders at the same time, such as being simultaneously completely gender-null and another gender.”Nonpuer or Nonvir: “Someone who is not male at all in any way, shape, or form, but feels a strong connection to masculinity within their gender. Nonpuer is the young form and Nonvir is the older form, as, similarly to the term "enby", many find "boy" (puer means boy in Latin) infantilizing.”That said, only you can say for sure what’s going on!~ Tath