Controlling Anger
Allow extra time for this particular spell as it takes some writing time.
Necessary Enchantments and Magickal Tools
The tools necessary for this spell include any tools you have chosen for your formation as described below.
You will need:
paper
a pen or pencil
matches or lighter
fire burning container
Candles You will need a black candle, or you can use three candles: black, blue, and silver \ gray. Set the candle(s) in front of you, either just he black candle centered or three in a row with the blue to the left, black in the middle, and silver \ gray to the right.
Formation All spells should begin with casting a circle, which is your shield of protection. If you're using a triangle or square, you can cast a circle first as then cast your formation within it. Best formation to cast this spell is the circle. Cast your formation ( using methods described here ) using a wand, a knife, an extended arm with fingers pointed, salt, or other material items you may have chosen.
Direction to Face The spell is most effective if you are west. Arrange your candles as stated above and any tools or enchantments that will be in your formation so they will be in front of you when you are sitting facing west.
Moon Phase This spell works best if cast during the waning or dark phase of the Moon because we are hoping to decrease anger just as the Moon is decreasing as it wanes.
Day of the week Cast this spell on any day of the week with the exceptions of Wednesday and Thursday, when it would be less favorable
Optional Magickal Enchantments
The following items will add a deeper dimension to your spell and help you focus yourself more fully, but they are not necessary and the spell can be cast even if you don't have these items available.
Gemstones The best gemstone to use for the spell is tiger’s eye and obsidian. If using additional gemstones other than those recommended in your formation, placed them in front of you. Incense Incense that will enhance the spell would be pine or bay. Place incense in a safe place within your formation if you like; however, start the incense outside of your formation.
Music If you like music and will not find it distracting, you might want to play something New Age, meditative or classical; think soothing and harmonious for calming inner turmoil.
Before You Start Your Spell
Make sure you have no distractions. Turn off phones if possible. Play soothing music. Keep the lights dim. Wash your hands or shower before you begin. Light incense if you are using it. Gather everything you need and have it close at hand. Draw your formation. Ask your higher power to allow the information to flow through you.
Affirmation
Affirmation to be read within your formation before you actually begin your spell. I release the anger about ( name of person or event ). Anger does not benefit me. My anger is a choice that I will not choose anymore. Anger poisons my system. I recognize when I get angry it's caused by frustration and not understanding why someone does not think or act like I do. I now realize it is not fair to choose anger because someone does not think like me. Give me the insight to accept that I cannot own someone else's behavior. I will not allow someone else's behavior to make me unhappy.
The next time I become angry, bring forth the reminder to me that anger is a choice. I will then try breathing deeply for a few seconds and postpone my anger. The time after that, I will postpone it even longer, lengthening the time. Eventually, I will realize I can control this anger. I will feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. I will be stronger; and with this new self-control, I will be able to accomplish anything. Surround me with this vibration.
AND SO IT IS
How to Perform the Spell
First, light your candles, then take your paper and pen and write a brief letter to the person or situation you're angry with. If you are angry with yourself ... right to yourself.
If you are angry with someone who is dead ... still write. If you are angry with an event that happened that caused you pain, write to that event. If you are angry about an object that hurt you or someone ... write to it.
If you do not care to write letters, simply write a few words to get the point across. Example: Rick, I am angry that you left me for a job in Boston. Illness, I am angry you made me have surgery when I had no medical insurance.
You have no problem writing a lengthier letter, tell him, her, or it how you feel and why you are angry with them. Be very honest and go into detail. No one will ever actually see the letter; it is your secret letter. In fact, if you are going to really expound, you may want to sit at a table or desk and type it or write it before you go into your spell area. The reasoning behind this letter writing is that it puts your thoughts into physical form, removing them from your subconscious.
Next, take your letter or note and burn it in your container. If a little bit is left, that is okay, as long as you cannot make out any special words or people's names.
For some reason you do not want to burn it, you can always tear it into the smallest pieces of paper you can and set in water so it is really destroyed. Then throw it away later. A great many people have felt new beginnings after this ritual, as this is a freeing release.
After you have burned your notes, say the following incantation:
Today I made a forceful voice, To start to live, hence I rejoice. My anger leaving, blessings be, I am revived, I am set free.
Conclude with any statement that signifies closure of the ceremony in your mind such as “And so it is,” “Blessed be,” or “Amen.” Now extinguish your candles and release your formation.
