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I asked my mom to help me get counseling.

If one person isn't taking you seriously, talk to someone else, and just keep going until someone does

#seek help #mental health #emotional health #raise your kids to speak up #don't forget to speak up yourself #there will always be a person that can help #sometimes we just have to work a little harder to find them #it might be terrifying #and i know labels can do terrible things to a person #but finding and surrounding yourself with people who care #will be what makes things better #even by just a tiny bit #couseling

I think Tumblr gets too much grief for examining relationships in cartoons like Steven Universe. The thought process is that it’s “just a cartoon” or “not that serious”. But the fact of the matter is that the relationships portrayed in this new generation of “wholesome” cartoons are a really great method in modelling behavior in order to make it more easily understood and talked about. What’s more, the younger generation of psychological professionals is taking notice. Using Steven as a way, especially for those of us who work with children, to have a way in to discuss some pretty deep topics in a way that builds rapport and makes these issues easier to identify with. If I ask a tween if they think their relationship (usually their first BIG relationship and sometimes one that leads to their first sexual experience) is one that’s healthy for them to be in, the realization that maybe they need to work on themselves and their relationship instead of diving all in is a lot easier for them to identify with if explained in regards to the possessive nature of Jasper’s love for Lapis compared to one like Steven and Connie or Ruby and Sapphire. My point (and I swear I have one) is that Tumblr for all its flaws is helping to shape the way we communicate with clients and making discussing feelings or situations easier for everyone involved. This post was inspired by a recent video by Thomas Sanders featuring adults acting as couples (or real couples?) visiting a mental health professional (played by Sanders) in which the relationships in Steven Universe are used in couple’s counseling . I don’t have any professional history with counseling adults (outside community outreach programs which don’t require accreditation) so I can’t say how this translates to adults. However, I and a few colleagues definitely have used SU to discuss things with our clients (7-15 year olds for the most part) and we also like to discuss it among ourselves but that’s mostly as fans...

#steven universe #as an example #but a lot of other newer cartoons #psychology #tumblr #couseling #changing approaches #thomas sanders #My Little Pony is also a pretty great topic for modelling

I have a crush on this boy and I thought he liked me but he's just been playing mind games with me. He even said himself, hed say 'do you want to go on a date? Just kidding, does that confuse you?!' And he'll always say Im beautiful, but then he'll call me a retard or Bitch. I'm just so hurt, how can I be in love with someone like that, I'm pathetic. Then I made him cry, I said after all the bottling up, you're not a nice person. I felt guilty. But then he was nice again. What do I do? I'm crazy

Hi. It can be frustrating to deal with people who continue to play games with us. Not only can it be distracting but, it can even be hurtful. The fact that he calls you awful names is a bit alarming as that is considered bullying and could be abusive. So I suggest you take some time to think about your feelings. Do you really want to be with a guy that might treat you like this if you do get together? If he’s playing around with you now, it might mean that he isn’t serious about you. You deserve to be with a person who wants to spend time with you rather than take up time by confusing you. However, there could be another side to this. He might not even know what he wants. He could also have commitment issues, so maybe something happened in the past that caused him to behave the way that he does now. He also might not realize the impact that he is having on you and could think that you are playing around with him too. So another thing you could do is talk to him. I know you said that you told him “You’re not a nice person” but maybe this time you could explain what he was doing that made you upset. He might have not understood that his behavior has upset you. He also might think that the matter has been resolved and that you’re fine. Talk to him about how you would like to continue to be around him but if he continues to act this way with you, you won’t be able to. It’s important in any relationship to be upfront and honest. I suggest writing a list of any behaviors or attitudes that you want to talk to him about. That way, you know what to say when you see him. However, if he doesn’t respond well or acknowledge his behavior, then it might be time to look for other people. As I said, you deserve to be with a person who wants to be with you and not cause you any problems. The current relationship that you have with him isn’t ideal so who knows how the relationship will change if you progress past this moment (it might get worse or it might get better). This is where I suggest you really evaluate your feelings for him and see whether it’s worth it. You can try to write a pros and cons list of getting into a relationship with him. You could even try to distance yourself from him and see if that makes a difference in his behavior. Some people change when they see their actions are hurting another person. However, I do suggest you try talking to him first. It can be difficult but whatever decision you make, I am sure you made the best one for yourself. Hope this helps.

Harini Babu