#cw school

[winrytheweirdo]

okay schools starting yk what that means! time to run into the woods and never look back!

[artemis-143]

reminder that it’s okay to lie about your attendance to an abusive school system

overslept and missed class? say you were sick.

couldn’t make it cuz you were feeling down? say you were sick.

kinda vent-ish under the cut

my mom got mad at us for oversleeping today, saying she got in trouble with the school because i have too many unexcused absences. i don’t get why she doesn’t just lie about it?? especially when she and my sister have the flu right now. sorry that the system punishes me for being human and disabled ig ?? ( i have severe insomnia and other mental illness , it’s not my fault if i sleep in )

note that my mom wasn’t mad mad at me, just frustrated. also with herself, since she also slept in. though i’m not mad at her for that since again she had the flu and deserves her rest. i just wish she wasn’t afraid to cheat the system, they don’t deserve my truth if they’re going to punish me for it.

[v4lerief4ngs]

Just got an award in school (and amazing grades for this semester) is this what drugs feel like?

<system that places too much importance and self worth on academic achievement due to being a "gifted kid"

[aspd-culture]

do you think making "to do list" things and breaking items into smaller pieces step-by-step would help with my ASPD and irresponsibility (at least for work/school)? what helps for u?

I think it definitely could? For me my issues with ASPD weren't actually my biggest problem in school, it was my comorbid ADHD. I would check into tips for pwADHD to find help with that because I didn't get those coping mechanisms until I had already been out of school for a couple years, with the exception of allowing yourself to doodle and fidget while trying to focus, which doesn't seem super applicable for this case.

The thing is, you have to kind of pick out if you have ADHD symptoms tangled in with ASPD, because I thought I was irresponsible because I was called irresponsible, but it turned out the reasons for that had everything to do with things I couldn't control about my ADHD, and I "became responsible" once no longer in an environment where I struggled (such as when we moved from most essays being written by hand to being turned in on google classroom in my school, allowing me to be unable to "forget my homework at home". When that happened, suddenly my "irresponsibility" went down, like a lot).

One thing I can say worked for me that I'm not sure if was about my ADHD or ASPD or both was splitting it into chunks. I did some of it on the bus home, some of it in study hall, some of it at home, etc. so I could keep telling myself "I can stop whenever I want and do the rest later" as long as I kept myself accountable as to when "later" would be. Be as flexible as you have time to be.

If it is ASPD causing the problem, I would say your biggest issue is going to be working through the "why should I have to do this" portion of it - so logically working out for yourself how you could apply the things you're learning irl at some point, which is usually very possible and likely even if at surface level it seems like it isn't. Never underestimate the power of telling your ASPD brain "if we do this, we'll be better than the people who didn't" or "if we do this, we can get away with not turning in something we don't want to do later easier because we'll have this grade in the books and it won't look like a habit". Find a way to make it about how it can benefit you (even if that's a superficial reason/doesn't truly matter bc if it works it works), basically.

That's just a lighter version of harm reduction honestly. It's best to not skip any work, but if your brain is going to make you, then prioritize the big stuff and give yourself trade offs for lesser issues until you get used to getting stuff done/turning it in.

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I think it definitely could? For me my issues with ASPD weren't actually my biggest problem in school, it was my comorbid ADHD. I would check into tips for pwADHD to find help with that because I didn't get those coping mechanisms until I had already been out of school for a couple years, with the exception of allowing yourself to doodle and fidget while trying to focus, which doesn't seem super applicable for this case.

The thing is, you have to kind of pick out if you have ADHD symptoms tangled in with ASPD, because I thought I was irresponsible because I was called irresponsible, but it turned out the reasons for that had everything to do with things I couldn't control about my ADHD, and I "became responsible" once no longer in an environment where I struggled (such as when we moved from most essays being written by hand to being turned in on google classroom in my school, allowing me to be unable to "forget my homework at home". When that happened, suddenly my "irresponsibility" went down, like a lot).

One thing I can say worked for me that I'm not sure if was about my ADHD or ASPD or both was splitting it into chunks. I did some of it on the bus home, some of it in study hall, some of it at home, etc. so I could keep telling myself "I can stop whenever I want and do the rest later" as long as I kept myself accountable as to when "later" would be. Be as flexible as you have time to be.

If it is ASPD causing the problem, I would say your biggest issue is going to be working through the "why should I have to do this" portion of it - so logically working out for yourself how you could apply the things you're learning irl at some point, which is usually very possible and likely even if at surface level it seems like it isn't. Never underestimate the power of telling your ASPD brain "if we do this, we'll be better than the people who didn't" or "if we do this, we can get away with not turning in something we don't want to do later easier because we'll have this grade in the books and it won't look like a habit". Find a way to make it about how it can benefit you (even if that's a superficial reason/doesn't truly matter bc if it works it works), basically.

That's just a lighter version of harm reduction honestly. It's best to not skip any work, but if your brain is going to make you, then prioritize the big stuff and give yourself trade offs for lesser issues until you get used to getting stuff done/turning it in.

[nopecho]

Drawing this derpy character during class gives me great joy

[radqueerfluff]

HI!! IM BACK FROM THE DEAD

im soo sorry for my long inactivity, i’ve been extremely busy w schoolwork n stuff :^(

[fictional-other]

think about your f/o helping you study for a big test, shuffling through flash cards n quizzing you with them, giving you a high five every time u get one right yup yup

[ithriel-coins]

help /nsrs for my personal fitness class i have to interview "three people from different age groups and cultural backgrounds" and i can't interview my family members. oh also this is to write an essay about culture/age and areas of fitness. the first example thesis statement is "My research shows that people of (culture x) prefer playing soccer, while people of (culture Y) prefer baseball." like??? 3 people is not a big enough data pool to form a thesis like that from?? this class is so confusing asksksks