#damean posts

[raven-system]

Me: *wakes up*

The world: Here’s more aphobia for you to confront

Me:

At this point I’m surprised I haven’t regressed at all recently.

- Damean

[raven-system]

I don’t feel safe in the community anymore but I can’t just leave...

- Damean 🌪

[raven-system]

@kragdu if you looked at Emil’s blog, you’d see the ask I sent him. I realised I had misinterpreted. As a gay man, who has sex, I don’t find that act to be aphobic. I misunderstood Emil’s response. It was cleared up, no feelings were hurt.

@covidnineteen I’m assuming you’ve blocked me or ive spelled your name wrong as I can’t @ you. I simply tagged it that way because I thought it might be aphobia.

I apologize for the misunderstanding.

- Damean

[raven-system]

It’s been a while since aphobia made me cry, fuck.

- Damean

[raven-system]

Just sent in an ask to Emil.

I hope he doesn’t see it as rude.

Hi! We’re a system and one of us is hypersexual and also experiences psychosis, so this blog has been a great help to them. However, I’m wondering in light of your recent post, you support aspec people right? I understand that your post wasn’t about that but the way you handled it was kinda iffy to me? We like your blog, just needed to clear that up a bit. -Damean

[raven-system]

Had to block a guy

He had posted this picture of a guy that said “you’re ugly, go kill yourself”

So I thought

“Ok, I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and just report it to tumblr

I also sent in an ask asking him to tag stuff like that since it’s a huge trigger for all of us.

Then just now I saw a post of his that said

It’s not that we don’t realize not everyone is hyper sexual.

It’s not that we don’t realize that it’s normal to want to have a relationship before you fuck.

Demisexuals work like this:

“Normally” attracted person: hey look at that shirtless guy!! He’s so hot!!

(Note that this does not implicate that she wants to have sex with him)

Demisexual person: hot? What makes him hot? I don’t understand.

Sure, demis might find something or someone aesthetically pleasing (like say a flower or the way a dress color compliments someone’s eyes) but that is immensely different from sexual attraction.

Now, let’s say the demisexual person and shirtless dude get to know each other. They get along nicely and have decided to date. Give it a few months and the demi might start to feel sexual attraction.

This is exactly what happened to me. I had a boyfriend and I loved him dearly. Yet I experienced absolutely zero sexual attraction to him. He could’ve sent a picture of him in a really provocative pose and i would’ve said something along the lines of “you look... lovely?” After about a month or two I started experiencing something I’d never felt before (I thought I was asexual for a very long time). I asked him what he thought it was and he was like “babe you’re horny” and I’m like “what the fuck???”

In conclusion, all identities are valid. Sincere and complete fuck you to plaguerightsactivist.

And you know what? I may be 15, but I happen to know @musical-skeleton who can back me up, he’s at least 25 give or take.

- Damean, your local demisexual gay guy.

[raven-system]

Fuck yeah my favorite song came on on my playlist

- Damean

[raven-system]

What was it like before you knew you were a system? If you don't want to talk about it, that's ok.

@nopenopenope173 sorry this was sitting in our inbox for months... we didn’t know how to answer

Before we knew it was complicated. First we thought stuffed animals were alive (most of our alters were toys).

Then we thought we just had imaginary friends

Then characters we thought we made up talked to us, we thought this was normal for a writer

Then Rose got into witchcraft and a friend told us we had familiars

When we learned about systems even when it made sense for us, so many things to relate to, we always said “but I could never be plural, I wasn’t abused.” And then when we admitted the latter it became “but I can’t be plural, my trauma wasn’t that bad”

In short, a lot of denial and confusion.