Will never understand the needless morality logic Stefan stans place around their love for Stefan (which only ever seems to exist to hate on Damon). I will always prefer a man that kills for an emotional reason over a man that kills just due to the lust to kill. Bloodlust is a desire just as much as “I killed him because I wanted to”-Damon always kills for humanity/emotional reasons. It’s just that stefan denies that bloodlust is a desire, while Damon admits his desire. Will always prefer a man that owns his flaws instead of denies them. I guess it’s my personal emotional bias, that denial of flaws imo is less redeemable than reveling in one’s flaws (Damon). Denial of flaws (and looking down on other’s) is the whole basis of the Christian white supremacist b.s. I’ve lived under my whole life.
okay so my thoughts on the season finale. I didn’t hate it. I thought it was okay. wanted more Damon... because he’s wonderful....
I don’t understand why Damon always has to do the Selfless thing when he is always the one doing the selfless thing.
but at least we finally got to hear
“You have a girl out there waiting for you and if you go in there with me and things go south it’s gonna create problems with her and you’re going to blame me.”
Now Stefan didn’t say “ Why would I blame you?” because lets be honest, everything that goes wrong in Stefan’s life whether its Damon’s fault or not gets blamed on Damon. And I’m finally glad damon acknowledged it. Like About damn fucking time. What really struck me was that Stefan instead says “I don’t care.”
“Whatever happens, It’s not his fault”
Fucking finally. I’m so sick of Damon getting blamed for shit that goes down when he’s either Sick, under the influence of some magical hellstone or otherwise.
What happened this season was not damon’s doing but everyone seems to think so because he left. Most of what happened this season was Enzo’s doing.
He wanted to find his family and got the armory into their lives.
He tricked nora and mary louise to find Rayna for him and set her loose on the world.
Instead of telling damon he didn’t kill elena he blackmailed him into getting Rayna’s knife. Only after damon threatened to kill him did he finally say “oh yeah btw you didn’t kill her”
Stefan was pissed at damon for “killing” elena, even tho Damon was fighting Rayna to buy Caroline time to have the babies. And bonnie had to basically beg Stefan to go help him.
Then Enzo put damon in a room with Tyler before he was about to transform forcing bonnie open the doors because she was the only one really on damon’s side. He was terrified of losing her. and she gets hurt. Even tho tyler owes his existence to damon (see season 5)
He was trying not to cause people pain and suffering. damon is constantly being told that he is the cause of all the misery to his brother, his friends etc. He didn’t want them to worry over him and somehow that got people even more pissed off. Yet when Stefan woke him up and said “I need you.” damon didn’t say anything he was ready to help.
like seriously sick of people saying damon doesn’t do the right thing when he constantly does...Or that he doesn’t give people choices.
Stefan was insistent that Elena wasn’t meant to be a vampire and wanted to “fix” her.
“I’m fine with her either way brother, so if I do this I’m doing it for you.”
Let’s not forget that Damon instead of taking the cure to save his own life from werewolf toxin wanted it for elena who would have lived either way but he respected her choice to be human.
Everyone just magically forgot that he sacrificed himself so that he could bring back Stefan, Enzo, Alaric, Tyler etc. And didn’t complain at all when things didn’t go in his favor. He just shrugged and said “Oh well guess its my time go, I had a good run.”
I’ve ranted about this before many many many times. But it bugs me that the writers are constantly beating damon down saying he’s selfish and shit without elena when he’s proven time and time again that he isn’t and the characters barely acknowledge it.
“Damon Finally did the right thing...the selfless thing.”
yeah okay guys...
From season one I saw myself in Damon. I hide my pain and insecurity behind comedy, I say things I don't mean when I'm upset, I often sabotage things I feel I don't deserve, and I hate when people feel sorry for me so I rarely open up. I get Damon. That's why I'm such a Damon Stan, because I understand how he feels. My sister as always been everyone's first choice, I've seen the look of disappointment in my fathers eyes, I've known what it's like to not see the point in feeling things at all.
Damon really struck something in me, just like you describe. That feeling of never being enough, of feeling like no one ever has or ever will love you, it just fucking grabbed my heart and squeezed. Because I get that. I get that feeling you see in his face when Stefan says something cutting, when the tomb was empty, when Katherine and Elena both told him it would always be Stefan ... There was no one else who would, but I loved him so much for that very reason. And I get those feelings that you describe and why you feel for Damon so strongly too. No matter the bad things that he has done - which I won’t defend, he’s done some horrible things, but I cannot pretend I don’t at least to some extent understand the feelings behind them - I just can’t help but feel for him. The way he just wants to be loved and love someone in return, with everything that he has. I just get that. The pain, the feeling of never being good enough, the disappointment, the longing ... I just love him so much, damnit.
Damon: hey so remember that time enzo sent those notes to nora and mary louise? Pretending to be the hunter?
Bonnie: yeah?
Damon: thus making you tag along on a dangerous mission to go find said hunter? Finding her as an old lady and almost killing you, Enzo showing up to save the day by killing her thus making her young again? Taking her body and losing it only to blackmail me into getting her dagger for her?
bonnie: yeah what did enzo have on you anyway?
Damon: oh he made me think I had burned elena’s body you know your best friend and the love of my life, I spiraled of course, stefan couldn’t even look at me... thus i lost hope in everything except our friendship and in a desperate attempt to make sure you didn’t find out and losing you forever I got him the dagger.
Bonnie:...but...
Damon: ONLY when I threatened to kill him for everything, did he tell me that Elena was alive and well.
Bonnie: uh....
Damon: Later, he then locked me in a room with a werewolf, prompting you to save me and you ended up in the hospital and almost died. I was also told I was the soul reason my brother was unhappy and that I put everyone in danger. And I swore i’d never let that happen again so I went to sleep. Only to have everyone hate me and say they were better off without me when I woke up?
Bonnie: but...he saved me from the armory...
Damon: .............Didn’t he put you in the armory’s crosshairs by involving you in all this to begin with?
Bonnie: But....
Damon: And now we have to save you from a sickness that was caused by pills he gave you?
